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zelle19 · Apr 8, 2012, 12:45 AM

So I work into this retail company and I'm so attracted to my boss! Its killing me like hell. I can't stop thinking about her.. Plus the connection that I feel with her is so strong. We make a lot of eye contacts and we always come across our way and I feel awkward when we're near to each other. Ughh I don't know if she likes me too because she always initiate to say hi to me! I don't know if she's just really nice. But she's nice but it never fails! That every time she sees me she make sure she smiles at me or say hi!its driving me crazy and iM so shy. I've also noticed that she always in the breakroom whenever I take breaks or lunch. And what's strange is I ask myself signs like" if she's gna buy something then she likes me" and " if she goes to the restroom then she likes me" and it would happen! That's so strange for me.. So I don't know if she's just really nice or there's a possibility that she likes me! Help.. I feel intimidated by her because she's my boss but I really do like her :(

miichellee · Apr 8, 2012, 12:53 AM

Well from my experience would be leave it as a little crush just try to forget it you don't want to mix love with work it never turns out well I been there once in my life it was a disater and has happen to a lot of my friends and the only way to know would be asking her but that would be weird and it would just make it awkward but maybe if you get lucky shell make a move if she feels the same way but my advice is try to leave it alone yeah its hard but its for the best try to distract yourself and go out have fun try to meet someone new :)

odinn7 · Apr 8, 2012, 06:14 AM

Whether she likes you or not, forget about the whole idea. She's your boss and nothing good can come of this.

LadySam · Apr 8, 2012, 06:32 AM

It could be that she is just a nice person, could be coincidence as there is likely only one employee bathroom and one break room.
Whether she is lesbian or bi-sexual is irrelevant, this is a work place and interaction should be kept strictly professional.
If she is flirting or coming on to you then that is very inappropriate for someone in management.
Forget about it and look for love elsewhere, otherwise you could jeopardize your job, and those are hard to come by these days.

zelle19 · Apr 8, 2012, 09:29 AM

Thanks guys for thee advice.. yeah I think I just got to forget about it.. its just really hard to move on because I work with her and believe me.. she's a BIG DISTRACTION..

Fr_Chuck · Apr 8, 2012, 09:44 AM

Next until you are ready to get out of the closet you are never going to be able to deal with real life and grown up dating. It will say closer to Jr High where you are in secret.

zelle19 · Apr 8, 2012, 09:57 AM

I had girl relationships before when I was in high school because I studied in an all girls school.. I had 20 exes.. but when I turned into college I qas trying to be straight because I want to be normal
But it was so hard for me and it suxx now that I can't even find somebody for me. I tried dating guys but ughh.. I feel horrible! It's a bummer.

Fr_Chuck · Apr 8, 2012, 10:09 AM

So you think that being a lesbian is not "normal" Can you not accept yourself the way you are and be willing to admit the way you are ?

mogrann · Apr 8, 2012, 10:16 AM

I just want to let you know that you are who you are. There is no normal and not normal. Everyone is different in one way or another... can you imagine how boring this world would be if we all were alike? I hope you can accept and be proud of yourself soon.

zelle19 · Apr 8, 2012, 10:16 AM

Nooo.. your getting me the wrong way.. being a lesbian is norm
Of course but its not normal for my situation.. I'm so scared of a lot of things now.. I actually don't know what I'm scared for.. ugh its so hard to be in this situation!

mogrann · Apr 8, 2012, 10:21 AM

What I will suggest for fear is not an easy solution but it can help. Do the thing you are fearful of 100% and enter fully into the experience. For me it is social situations so when I go out I don't just stand in a corner alone but talk to people and participate. Does this work the first time you try it and are cured... no. It is hard work but it helps. The key factor is to participate fully and ride the waves of fear. Think of fear as waves hitting a beach when you are far out of the water they are high and strong, as the water gets to the sand it is barely noticeable. Same as fear at the first it is so strong but as you ride it out it lessens.

Cuzirawk · Jun 27, 2012, 01:26 PM

Soo... I just googled the same question and found yours. How's it going for u? I KNOW my boss is a lesbian, she is out and so am I. We are both attached to other people but I am so attracted to her it's uncomfortable. She is absolutely everything I look for in a woman. This sucks so bad. I don't even have anyone to talk to this about :-( grrr I can't even look her in the eye for more than 3 or 4 seconds