[amicha12]

I've been dating my girlfriend since this past summer. Roughly four weeks ago, she went out with some old friends. That night, my girlfriend was drugged and raped. She is very comfortable discussing what she can remember with me. She understands that I am there for her no matter what and will love her always. Recently, she took a pregnancy test after suffering from some early symptoms. The result was positive.

I am only 20 years old and I don't feel that I am ready to be a father. Ive always wanted to wait for the right time. However, I am deeply in love with her. She means the world to me and I'd be a fool to let her slip away.

Aside from my concern with fatherhood, my mother isn't the biggest fan of my girlfriend. My girlfriend and I have been through rough patches before we started dating. To sum that up, we both were fighting for one another's attention without just coming out and telling each other how we felt. Nonetheless, those issues were resolved quite some time ago but my mother doesn't seem to let them go.
I love her more than anything in the world, but I am scared of where certain choices will take me. Any suggestions or comments are deeply appreciated. Thank you

[odinn7]

She was raped? Did anyone report this?

[amicha12]

Yes. The report is currently under investigation. Unfortunately, nothing so far.

[indya]

First of all, I feel you should file a complain against the person who date raped her. It's nice to see that you want to be by her side.

I can understand that your mom doesn't approve of your relationship, and you are not yet ready for fatherhood. But you will have to stand strong and support her. There are still 9months before you actually become a father. And in case both of you are unable to raise the child, he/she can always be given up for abortion.

Just be with her and support her.

[jaffeyjoeblaze]

If she is willing and you are willing to have an abortion and it doesn't interfere with your beliefs, then that would be a possible option... im not too familiar with situations like this...

[Picaso714]

You are to young. Continue dating her because you love her but do not take the role of a parent. Otherwise your going to have problems with her and your parents.

[talaniman]

You support her no matter how she decides to handle things. That doesn't mean you have to get married, or be a father. You are a loving boyfriend of a female that has a child. If she decides to keep it. Her call, not yours. Love and support. The rest is one day at a time.