[bigbear30]

My girlfriend and I have been dating for 4 months since last Sunday. About 2 weeks ago she said that she was bored and wanted to go out more. So we went out with her best friend and her boyfriend for her best friends birthday. A week later she tells me that she still has feelings for her ex and needs a break. So for about 2-3 days we still talk but we don't see each other. She realized that she's lived without her ex for so long and told me about how she can't live without me. So thing go back to normal until 2 days ago when I was over at her house she says that she wants to break up. She says she still loves me and part of her wants to be with me, but part of her wants to be single too. She says that she's got a lot going on and she wants to be able to hang out with her guy friends without feeling guilty. I keep telling her that I love her and I want her back so bad but she says that she needs to be alone for a little while. She says that she thinks that we'll get back togeather eventually and that she's not going to see other people and I said I wasn't either. But when is eventually? Days, Weeks, Months? Does anyone have any advice?

[talaniman]

No one knows when eventually will be, it could be never, but we do know that while she is having fun with her guy, and gal friends, you should be doing the same.

Bad idea to even consider waiting for her to be ready to take you back though, not only because you have no clue when that will be, but while she says she won't be looking for someone else, she may well date many others and eventually date others.

Thank her for the good times, bow out gracefully, and have yourself a blast as a single guy, after a proper healing period. That's what dating was all about, having fun while getting to know each other, and in your case, she was unsure twice already, so the experiment didn't work out. That happens all the time, for whatever reason, and while it hurts at first, you will recover, eventually.

Break ups suck for sure, but its not a bad thing, as you are as free as she is to explore better options with the chance of better outcomes.

[bigbear30]

Thanks talaniman, but I know she won't be dating anybody else, we go to the same college and I see her in the halls mostly everyday, we still talk and stuff and she promised that we would get back togeather eventually but right now she said she just needs time, but it's killing me not knowing how long it's going to last, I still want to be with her and she said she still wants to be with me but she needs time, and I think she's just confused because she does have a lot that's going on in her life right now and she just needs time alone, so hopefully it works out.

[talaniman]

Then give her time alone as she has asked and go have yourself a great time without her.

[Jimmy78]

Live your life, don't put it on hold. The best thing about the situation is if she comes back treat her like you never knew her and tell her to kiss your and find them other people she like being with.

[semra1997]

I think you should ask if she loves you and still have feelings for you too and if she doesn't t than let her go.

[jaffeyjoeblaze]

Basically you should let her have her fun and you should go find some fun for yourself and possibly a new girl to occupy your time or make you realize there could be a better girl out there for you...