[echizen5]

I'll try to keep this short. I went out with this guy for about 2 months last year. It was my first relationship and his, we more kind of "saw" each other than anything else. All we did was cuddle and watch movies and play video games. I got bored and things just weren't going anywhere so I broke up with him. I still wanted to be friends because we had so much in common and we have the same friends.
We didn't talk all summer and then we both live on the same floor again in the dorms (he lived across from me last year) and is living with my friends. Long story short about this is we both got feelings back for each other, I'm indecisive so by the end of the semester he wanted to know if I would go out with him again and I didn't know, so then I thought about it and thought I was just feeling lonely in the romantic respect so I told him I just want to be friends.
Then this semester my feelings came back. Stronger than last semester. I ended up head over heels for the guy. Still hesitant though because when we're together it's hard to talk some times. He's got a lot of great things I look for in a guy and he's hott. Anyway, I was pretty much certain I wanted to be with him and then a couple days ago my feelings just disappeared. I really don't understand this. It's really frustrating. This happened over Spring Break where I didn't see him face to face for a while. So we hung out yesterday and I was bored for a while, really just not feeling well either, and it got better through out the day, but no feelings still. It could just be my fear of relationships stopped it, but does anyone else have any ideas?

[DoulaLC]

If you don't feel it, you don't feel it. Maybe you liked the attention he gave, maybe you were lonely and you knew he was interested in you. Maybe it is because he is "safe", someone you already know. Do you find your feelings are stronger when you are not really seeing him?

Perhaps you are putting too much pressure on yourself to "feel" something. Since he is a nice guy, and you have things in common, just focus on going out now and then and having fun. Maybe in time you will develop stronger feelings, maybe you won't.

It may end up that you decide that he is just a good friend and the dating thing just isn't going to work... and that is fine.

[indya]

You don't need to have 'strong feelings' to go out with someone! You can always go out with this guy without getting involved in the commitment tangles.

If he's nice and you like him then why not! Just have fun and see what your feelings develop into.

[Stellaw]

Maybe it's because you're stressing and sweating about it. Don't think about it and then maybe just maybe you'll feel more certain. Stressing about it would only lead to more confusion and of course fatigue. You'll only end up feeling more uncertain.

[JudyKayTee]

People change. Time changes things. "Love" is sometimes a passing emotion.

And I agree - if it isn't there, it isn't there. I don't know that the "why" part is terribly important.

Anyone who has ever had a summer or vacation romance has experienced this. Time (and place) changes things.