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sarakirk · Feb 13, 2012, 05:22 PM

Okay so my boyfriend has been in the hospital for 6 days because his appendix burst. He just got home and he texted me and we talked for a few texts and then he said he was going to get some sleep and he would text me later. Later that nigght he never texted me and I saw him commenting on things on fb so I tried to called him and he ignored my call. He texted me after that and said he doesn't want to talk to anyone because he wasn't feeling good. The next day I went to visit him and everything was perfectly fine and when I left his house he said he would text me and he never did. I texted him 4 times throughout the rest of the day and he never replied. I tried to call him the next day and no answer. So I texted him and asked why he would never answer my texts and he replied and said he was sleeping. So I said "I texted you 4 times yesterday and you never replied." And he said "I just don't want to talk to anyone." What do I do? I'm his girlfriend shouldn't he want to talk to me? :( :(

J_9 · Feb 13, 2012, 05:24 PM

You are being WAY too clingy and needy. Let the poor boy recover and get his rest. I'm sure he has other friends. If you continue down this needy path, he's soon to be your ex boyfriend.

sarakirk · Feb 13, 2012, 05:29 PM

Thanks that's the best advice I've heard all day

J_9 · Feb 13, 2012, 05:32 PM

You need time to be apart to appreciate the times you have together.

sarakirk · Feb 13, 2012, 05:35 PM

But it just hurts that he doesn't want to talk to me. I'm his girlfriend shouldn't he want to? When I saw him yesterday he was perfectly fine and acted like he usually does

J_9 · Feb 13, 2012, 05:42 PM

He shouldn't HAVE to talk to you all day every day. If you are his girlfriend you will understand that he has other things to do in his life, right now is recovery from surgery, than text you constantly.

One sign of a healthy relationship is giving your partner time to do things they like without you.

sarakirk · Feb 13, 2012, 05:44 PM

Yes but he won't text me AT ALL.

J_9 · Feb 13, 2012, 05:47 PM

Because you are texting him too MUCH! Boys don't like to text as much as girls do.

sarakirk · Feb 13, 2012, 05:49 PM

No we texted nonstop before this. I guess its why its so weird

Alty · Feb 13, 2012, 05:52 PM

His appendix burst. He's in pain. He needs to recover. I know that when I'm feeling sick I don't want to talk to anyone, or see anyone.

Let him get his rest. Show him that you understand that right now texting all day is not something he's up to, and you don't expect him to make himself uncomfortable just to make you happy.

ohsohappy · Feb 13, 2012, 06:08 PM

My boyfriend lives with me, and even so there are still times he doesn't want to talk to me. Sometimes he's in a bad mood, or he's working on homework, or hanging out with his friends or spending time with his family. Sometimes he's just not in the mood to talk. Don't take it personally, it's not about you. So don't make it about you or it WILL be, and then he will ignore you because of YOU not because of another reason. J-9 is right, give him some space. As wonderful as it would be, you are not the entirety of his world. Just because he has a cell phone, and he has it on him all the time, doesn't mean he needs to be on it all the time. That's the terrible thing about cell phones, and I'm guilty of this too. You EXPECT that person to answer, or text you right away. You think you should be able to reach them where-ever or when ever. Think of it this way, If you guys didn't have cell phones, or computers you'd only see him in person. If he's not acting weird in person, then you guys are fine. Don't think too much about it. And don't get mad at him for not being so quick to talk to you.