[jstjpac7]

My 16 year old daughter lies about being sick to her peers at school. All kinds of things, having tumors, seizure's, cancer. She is a good girl, loves being around her family. Does not party or drink or do drugs. Does not really have many close friends. I assume that stems from the lying. She does not lie to me or her step-father. Like sneaking around and lying to get out of trouble. Its just to kids at school. Her biological father has never really been around and when he was all he did was tell her lies. So could this be passed down from her biological father? I have never lied to her and we are a loving family. I don't understand nor do I know what to do. I have confronted her about this a few times before and she tells me she won't do it anymore. But I keep catching her lying. Any advice for a frustrated mother.

[kaylaluv]

She could be doing it because she doesn't have many close friends. She may not have any if you haven't seen them yourself. She could be a shy girl at school who doesn't know how to make friends, or she may not feel like she is interesting enough to make friends on her own... which is where the lying comes in. She might be trying to make herself sound more interesting to others or get them to feel bad for her over the sickness to form a friendship. Have a sit down chat with her and let her know that the lies won't make others like her more and that she needs to just try to be nice, and as hard as it may be, a little more outgoing because building friendships off lies is no way to go and her word is all she has at this point in her life. Hope this helps :)

[gg2334]

Well, she obviously doesn't many close friends maybe she's getting made fun of or teased or maybe even bullied, and isn't telling you the truth. So if that is so she's going to want people to feel bad for her so she doesn't get made fun of so badly. Try talking deeply with her or maybe going to counceling.