[cornerways]

Hi, I've been dating a woman for around one and a half years. Every thing was perfect, it was like a dream. We loved each other, did fun things, and so on. Just recently she got a Xmas job. It was a full time but a temp job, but also she is in full time studying.

One day out of the blue she started acting funny saying she wants time away from me and needs to feel like she misses me. Now we only meet once a week and that's for 2 to 3 hours and we speak on the phone 1 to 2 hours every night. I found out her friends have been telling her we need time apart, but after I told them the time we spend together even they were shocked saying that's not enough.

But because they have told her that, she's basically kept that on her mind, and isn't giving in. This makes us argue, and now she says she don't see a future together. I've never hit her, or hurt her in anyway, or given her a reason to leave. She don't let me hug or kiss her, well she don't like me touching her or meeting her. But she sees me when ever she wants, and touches and hugs me when ever she wants.

Any advice on what's going wrong, or how to fix this? Thank you

[talaniman]

Let her miss you then, as arguing instead of discussing is no way to resolve anything.

Wonder what she was telling her friends? Obviously it was different than what she was doing with you! That's NO good.

[boywonder55]

I'd say find something to fill the time... I've learned the minute you show her that her friends bother you then it'll be the end in due time. I'd ask if there were activities that could involve you and her friends but don't sound intruding.

I have dealt with friend interference in my relationships before... best advice I could say is let her go but make yourself available. She will decide where she wants to be and if her friends have that much influence in her decision making then she's not the one for a long term relationship. Do this as long as you feel happy, if you don't then you got to go and find something that does!