[bunty1]

Hi everyone, I have problem , I mean one side love,I just need to know how girls think,

Actually I have started loving a girl from 2 yrs, she is versatile I mean,studious as wel as fun loving girl,and has a very friendly attitude,I got introduced to her 1 yr bak purposefuly ,and starded chating with her on net and by sms,I used to give her a hint about my love now and then by applauding her each time I saw her, but she ignored them,and one day bcoz of her frds she came to know by my messages that I love her,and bfore I propose to her she intentionaly or unintentionaly.. I dono ,she blurted out that she likes one of her clasmates.. but not seriously,she made me guess that person through her class photo,I was collapsed,not knowing what to do, I proposed her next day,I told her what all I have done to watch her and when all this story started,she replied to this mail by saying that (I.. Never had any feelings for you but that your just like one of my friend.. I will be your friend,. this is not an order but a request.. )
I even told her about my family status, my studies and my ambitions all thtt stuff,after all this again after a gap of 2 months on her birth day I gifted her with an expensive gifts and she first refused but accepted them,. all,I even told that I will wait for her if not for 1 yr for 5 yr.. she talks well replies to my message, but the only problem is that she never voluntarily says even hi... even for months also.. tht really puts me down,I am losing myself respect,I sometimes get dejected and try to forgrt her by deleting her number and so.. but I cant.I really love her very much,I dono if the age gap of 4yr is restricting her,if that is then she would'nt be a friend too is'nt it.. tel me whts in her mind... I mean if I... bfriend her this way can I win her love...

[mason_7428]

Okay... uh... wow. Well, as a girl this is the best advice I can give to you. I've been in her spot before and I think that you are still coming on too strongly. It's really hard to be good friends with someone if they like you a lot and you don't have feelings for them back and you keep bringing it up. All you can do is to keep talking to her but stop talking about how much you love her. And also, is it possible to just forget about her or let things cool off just a tad? Maybe if you don't talk for a while, she will realize what she's about to lose and she could start talking to you.

[talaniman]

Hard to believe that proposing to someone with out a relationship, I suspect you are not in America, so the culture thing is beyond me. Seems like you have skipped the whole dating and get to know one another, and went to expensive gifts and Marriage? Too fast Too soon.

[JoeCanada76]

One Word, (STALKER). You are what we call delusional phycopaths. It is nothing personal but if I was talking to the person on the other side. The person that you love so much. I would be advising her to get a restraining order and if you came any where close to her, to throw your butt in jail. This obsession with somebody that does not like you is not good for you or anybody else.

YOU CAN NOT WIN ANYBODIES LOVE. YOU CAN NOT BUY ANYBODIES LOVE, YOU CAN NOT FORCE ANYBODY TO LOVE YOU.

So you need to get yourself help. I am very serious. Counselor, Priest whoever you feel more comfortable with.

You need to get past these feelings.

Hopefully you got the answers that are important for your learning and your growth.

Joe