[lexdyl83]

About a month ago I looked at my husbands phone and found a text message from a number with no name. So I read it. I was obviously a conversation with a girl. I couldn't finish reading the whole thing because I felt stick, hot and started to shake. Whe I confronted him he tried to hide his phone and looked nervous. Which set me off even more. He told me that someone texted him and he didn't know who it was but the guys at his job told him to text back. I'm always questioning what he does now.I am a stay at home mom and think that he's talking to someone else because I don't think he thinks I'm attractive anymore. He says I am but I see the way he looks at skinny girls with perfect bodies. I am very insecure about myself and I told him that I have no trust in him anymore. But he told me "I fu*cked up because I didn't erase it". Not that he should've done it in the first place. We've been married for 6 years and together for 10. And have 2 beautiful children. He always accused me of cheating even though I'm always home with my kids and don't go anywhere. But like they say the accuser is usually the one cheating! He told me not to tell anyone so that he doesn't look bad... but maybe I should! I need major advice and opions please! Thank you!

[smoothy]

For what its worth I get texts from time to time from people I have no idea who they are... because I don't text anyone at all. I never respond to them.

However going off on him is going to provoke a response you really aren't going to like... because trust me... if my wife did that to me... there would be trouble.

You can receive an errant text just as easily as you get someone dialling a wrong number... yet you can do permanent damage to a marriage and lose respect by doing what you did. Particualrly if it was as he said... nothing.

[JudyKayTee]

This is another really good reason not to snoop. When you DO snoop, be prepared to deal with what you find.

Now you've driven him underground by blowing up at him. If it's innocent, he knows you snoop; it it's NOT innocent who knows you'll snoop and now he'll hide his activities.

I look at other men - that doesn't mean I want to have sex with them.

[Fr_Chuck]

I got a naked photo of a women last month, This last year I got one very very hot text.

It happens, if I was not a priest I would have considered texting back in fun.

Is he cheating, who knows, but story is believable.

Does he go out, or come home right after work, is there other reasons to think he is cheating

[awesomagic]

I agree with JudyKayTee. Sometimes being in the dark is a good thing, meaning it's much less painful. Personally, I never ask a question unless I am totally prepared for the answer. Just make sure you understand something: cheating is a far cry from simply using bad judgement, of which we are all guilty from time to time.