[Coppertobe]

Well I live in Canada and all my life I have wanted to be adopted.
I have never met my father and my mother is a druggie, so I had a horrible life and I've had to raise myself. I'm like an orphan.

Now that I'm 18 I'm so sad and scared knowing I'll never be adopted and never have a mother or father and I want it more than anything in the world. That's what I think about most.

I've never been disciplined either, and I crave it a lot. Just haven't gone through any of the things children go through, I don't know what it's like to have a parent or a parent like figure.

I need some advice. I wish there was an adult adoption agency... Is there?

Or do you just know what I could do to find someone who could be like a mentor or something to me? I want to be a police officer so I've always dreamed about getting adopted by a cop. I just want it so much. I can't bear the idea of having to live the rest of my life with this emptiness and never knowing what it's like to have a mom or dad. :(

Any help would be wonderful. Thank you in advance..

[Mini_Her]

I know of some resources in Florida, but none in Canada. There are a few "Adult foster homes" down here. The Frat House, New Journey, and Casa Valentina are some. The girls there are between the ages 18 and 23. And it's a family setting. Some of those girls actually do get attached to their "mothers" in those home (some). Because you are still young (18 year olds are often treated like children BTW) an older person would look at you from a parental stand point. So to answer your question, yes you can still be taken in as someone's child. Google "Adult foster homes" or "after foster care" in Canada and see if they have them there.

[JudyKayTee]

You cannot be adopted without the consent of your birth parents.

[ScottGem]

You don't need to be "adopted". Adoption is a legal process wherein a legal familial relationship is created. That's not what you need. What you need is friends to show you that you matter. A mentor to help guide you in the future.

What I would suggest is to talk to a guidance counselor at school who can suggest support groups that can help you.

Also, do you belong to a church or other religious organization? That would be another source. There are also fraternal organizations for police officers that may be able to help you.

[JudyKayTee]

I know of some resources in Florida, but none in Canada. There are a few "Adult foster homes" down here. The Frat House, New Journey, and Casa Valentina are some. The girls there are between the ages 18 and 23. And it's a family setting. Some of those girls actually do get attached to their "mothers" in those home (some). Because you are still young (18 year olds are often treated like children BTW) an older person would look at you from a parental stand point. So to answer your question, yes you can still be taken in as someone's child. Google "Adult foster homes" or "after foster care" in Canada and see if they have them there.

You are aware that people age out of the foster care system at 18, right?

I can't find an adult foster home in OP's area which isn't designed for seniors. Can you?

The homes you give as references are designed and licensed to help "young adults" make the transition from foster care to independent living. That's also not the case here. She's not in foster care.

[Synnen]

What in the world would be the benefit to adoptive parents to adopt you at 18?

Those who wish to adopt generally wish to have a CHILD in their lives.

Those who want adults in their lives to care for have FRIENDS.

I suggest you make friends and make your friends into your "family". All it takes is the same unconditional love you'd give a family member.