[Holmess]

Well, just today I started to see that I am always seeking attention, on everything I do, everyone I come in contact with, I always to draw their attention in any way I can, I'm starting to hate it because at some point I even make up horrible lies to draw their attention, I can't control it, it just comes out of my mouth, and it this turned me into a bad person with many bad habbits, I lost a lot of friends and made people think that I am a liar when all I wanted is some attention... I really don't know why I'm doing this I just don't know... and I really need to fix it, I need to get rid of it, its killing me... I would really love an answer to my questions.

[joypulv]

The answer is to turn every single encounter with other people into attention on THEM. Force yourself to ask about them and to say nice things and 'tell me more' and 'that's very interesting' or 'I;m sorry that is happening.' That's how the world works. One person gives and the other one takes, and then you trade places. Once you have proven yourself in your own little trial, you can start sharing things about yourself mixed in with what they are saying. But if self centeredness is a real problem for you, you may have to go cold turkey until you find friends seeking you out to see how you are. And if lying is a compulsion, that's even more reason to go cold turkey.

[Holmess]

I really thank you for trying to help me, I did try that give others attention but I never got any back sometimes or just a little, that's why I started making up stories to get their attention, give them false promises just so I can get calls from them, I really don't know why I'm doing it, every night before I sleep I get headaches thinking about why am I doing this why... no matter how much attention I get, its not enough, I always try to look cool or do things just so people would ask me about it...