[tf489]

I am a good parent I let my kids have fun to I am sorrybut maybe you need to lossen up and le kids have fun they are back together but they can only hang out with groups never alone

[J_9]

Loosen up? Me, I'm the funnest parent around! However, I am a parent first not a friend.

I have a house full of kids all the time. They range from 9 years to 19 years old. I don't need to loosen up. I know how to be a responsible parent.

[odinn7]

i am a good parent i let my kids have fun to i am sorrybut maybe u need to lossen up and le kids have fun they r back together but they can only hang out with groups never alone

Loosening up and allowing a 10 year old to date and kiss are 2 completely different things. You need to be able to supervise your child and know where they are and what they're doing because if you don't, this leads to them having no control at all. Pregnancy and drug use are just a few of the things that come to mind that are possible in these situations. I agree with J_9 on this and I also think the negative was wrongfully given.

[ScottGem]

i am a good parent i let my kids have fun to i am sorrybut maybe u need to lossen up and le kids have fun they r back together but they can only hang out with groups never alone

I have a problem with what's going on here. You first posted this yesterday at 6:40PM. In less than 24 hours, you broke them up, suspected your daughter was sneaking behind your back and now are allowing them to hang out as part of a group.

Sorry, but that seems to be moving too fast, especially since your daughter should have been in school this morning.

As for your being a good parent, we only know what you have told us. Letting a 10 yr old girl "date", especially allowing kissing, is not something a responsible parent will do. So if this was an example of your parenting skills, then it doesn't bode well for other skills.

[J_9]

I'm guessing this is the child, not the parent.

[Wondergirl]

I'm guessing this is the child, not the parent.

Bingo! I've suspected that from the get-go. The terrible texting and immature phrasing were my first clues, and probably yours too.

[J_9]

I suspected it as well, but just went along with the posts.

[ScottGem]

I'm guessing this is the child, not the parent.

Well there is certainly questions about the reality of this.

[Wondergirl]

I believe it's always best to err on the side of curiosity and obtaining more information. The revelations will usually provide the truth or at least a very strong suspicion of it.

[jenniepepsi]

So... in the 20 minutes between you telling her she can't have him as a boyfriend, she starts sneaking around?

[jenniepepsi]

And now I'm caught up. Lol.

[edaniels1]

Ya I agree with these posts. I have had a total of 11 girls who have come into my life at different stages of development. I have daughters as well. Right now my daughter is 13 going on 20... lol. It takes a lot of effort to listen to your daughters as well. If you don't set boundaries now you will never be able to later. Your daughter needs to feel she is safe because of these boundaries. Even now my 13 year old daughter still needs these and with talking to me she can get a better perspective on things verses asking her friends. As a single father this has been the roughest thing to go through. I am now married but that doesn't mean my new wife can always fill the need to set these boundaries. As a father my first instinct is to lock her up. This is the worst thing any parent can do. This can be the greatest time for you both to establish the communication that will ensure she has a wonderful teen age years. Telling her this is normal is the truth. It starts around 9 years of age for girls. You don't want her thinking she is doing something wrong or that she isn't normal to like this. Then without going outside of her age limit express to her why she needs to refrain from this behavior with boys. And yes she needs limits. She shouldn't want to date till 16 mainly because she can't really go out on a date. Boy crushes I have allowed at 13 but only within school and only if I take the boy with us to dinner or family events, just as I would do with any friend of my daughter. A parent should be teaching their children how to interact with the opposite sex, if not someone else will. This 13 year old boy needs to be told very carefully that there is limits. It's hard when dealing with other peoples kids. It may seems cute to many people, but without getting too judgmental with the other parents I would also open it up in conversation with them before talking to their son. I really hope this helps some.

[DG]

If I saw a 13 year old kiss my 10 year old daughter , my family would have to visit me in jail .

:)