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sugarmama5014 · Oct 26, 2011, 09:32 AM

Live-in boyfriend and his 11 year old son (shared parenting) need to leave my home. We have been together 6 yrs and for the past 4 of those years all financial responsibility fell on me. Why should I continue to house someone for nothing when they have given up finding a job stating "there are none, the economy is bad!". Besides, my home has become a filthy dumping ground because no one cleans or picks up after themselves.
I have told my boyfriend he needs to move out and he states he agrees. Unfortunately, he has no money to do so and has told me in no uncertain terms that he will stay until he has the resources to leave my crazy psychotic butt. He had the nerve to tell me that he and his son would be homeless if they gad to leave right now.
I know I have legal recourse but his threats of reporting some of my past indiscretions to legal and licensing authorities will cause me nothing but headaches. I also fear that since a child is involved I may be forced to continue housing them for his well-being.
I am stuck and miserable. Please advise.

JudyKayTee · Oct 26, 2011, 10:56 AM

If you want legal advice you have to evict him according to Illinois Law. Illinois Legal Aid | How To Evict Your Tenant I'm not going to restate the process because it appears you've looked into it. If I am incorrect, please let me know and I'll give the steps.

As far as his threats - I don't know how serious your indiscretions are, how seriously his complaint(s) will be taken, how much trouble you'll be in but my personal advice is that if you cave in on this issue he will control you for the rest of your life. Maybe he's bluffing. The other thought is if you've done something that is reportable - why did he wait so long to report it? He could find himself an accessory.

You have to decide which path is best. And what if he leaves in his own timeframe and you have words about something in the future? Is he going to threaten you - again?

Fr_Chuck · Oct 26, 2011, 01:10 PM

Not sure of your past, but that is what we suffer, of course what he is doing is blackmail and illegal,

But you have to give them official written notice to move, if they do not move, you file for an eviction in court to have them legally evicted.

If he then decides to report your "crimes" he will call the police and do so, not sure of his proof, or if the police would even care, but most likely it is just a threat

sugarmama5014 · Oct 26, 2011, 03:24 PM

It's not the police that I'm worried about. It's a medical licensing board and he has proof.

ScottGem · Oct 26, 2011, 03:39 PM

As Judy said, if you cave he will control you. So I would suggest you consult an attorney who can represent you to the licensing board. Or get proof of his threats and serve him with a vacate notice. If he says anything about reporting you, tell him you will have him charged with blackmail.

JudyKayTee · Oct 26, 2011, 03:47 PM

- And it goes back to if he knew and did nothing "then" and decides to do something "now," he's got problems, too. I don't know how serious his allegations are but, as I said, if you don't do something about the situation he'll control you forever.

I know you're between a rock and a hard place - Scott's idea is sound. Consult with an Attorney.