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    sleepinbeauty Posts: 16, Reputation: 2
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    Feb 6, 2007, 12:04 PM
    How do I break up with him?
    My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and five months. I'm 15 and he is 17. I have been trying to break up with him since th sixth month we've been dating but he always makes me feel guilty about it. He says its not fair to him. I do love him but I feel we are both missing out on other opportunities buy being with each other. How do I break up with him? :confused:
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    Feb 6, 2007, 12:26 PM
    You know how and just aren't making it stick, truth be told here! LOL Who is in charge of you? Him? The Man In The Moon? You? Your parents?

    If you are being his girlfriend out of feelings of guilt or sympathy then you aren't really being his girlfriend-- you are being his mama, nanny, babysitter or fix-me girl. I understand that you are young and inexperienced, and youth does confuse love easily. But geeze, Sleeping, girlfriends have lives and minds of their own and act like it too. Where is your life? I don't mean to sound harsh here sweetie but you aren't doing anyone, least of all him, any favors. Sometimes what looks like kindness isn't kind at all. Sorry, but If you are going to play with things like relationships, then you'll have to take the bitter with the sweet, Sleeping. It comes with the territory.

    Like Yoda says: There is do and do not, there is no try!

    Now go break up with him and make it stick. You will need that skill later on for other things too and the only way you acquire it is by doing it.
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    Feb 10, 2007, 07:02 PM
    Had to spread it Val, but you are so right . If she can't make her word stick and not be controlled now, her future b/f's will control her too. Not a good position to be in. Break the cycle now.
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    Feb 10, 2007, 07:12 PM
    I need to talk to you. I do care for you but I do not want to go out with you anymore. No sense on making me feel guilty, life is not fair. I need to be fair in letting you go because I do not think it is right in you keeping me just because you made me feel guilty about keeping you longer by my side then I want. The guilt is not going to work this time. I want us to experience other things and learn about life. It is time for us to go our separate ways.

    Goodbye!

    Your name.
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    Feb 10, 2007, 09:52 PM
    All honestly the only right way to break up with someone is to just be honest. Nothing hurts more than getting dumped and knowing that the reason was a lie. Then he will never learn from a mistake in a relationship. And that's what its all about, Relationships they can be great, they can hurt, but they are all a learning experience. Just be honest simply sit down and just talk about your feelings and let him know that hey your young he's young go have fun, and mabey there's a chance of getting back together if its true love.
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    Feb 11, 2007, 01:58 AM
    I think "honesty" is the best way to go. It hurts, however the truth always sets you free and it also sets the other person free too. At least this way they know what to expect. I feel when you tell the person the truth you are going to help them in their next relationship. Ending it nicely the best you can is going to help the transition. Good luck.
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    Feb 28, 2007, 01:36 AM
    ... "Will the REAL you please stand up? "

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