[mylifess]

I went to get on the computer and found that my boyfriend was watching porn. And looked at naked girls. We talked about it and everything. But I just get sick every time I think of him masturbating to someone that's not me. I feel like crying every time I think about this. What should I do?

[Cat1864]

Are you both happy with your sex life?

If you talked about it, what did he say?

Do you masturbate? Do you read romances, listen to music, watch movies with actors you find 'hot', etc. It is the same thing with other forms of erotica including porn. Contrary to what some want to believe, porn and other masturbatory aids have been around for a lot longer than the computer (as we know it) and the Internet. It does not take anything away from you and what you have with him.

Think of it this way, porn is for a quick release. Masturbation is all about not having to worry about satisfying a partner. What he does with you has emotions attached. He wants to be in the same room with you even you aren't having sex.

He could be like me. I watch porn, but when I masturbate it is thoughts of my husband that take the focus. Erotica is just a tool for getting ideas.

Would the two of you be open to watching it together? Instead of looking at it as a rival, put it in its place as a tool. Use it as a way to learn what you both like and to get ideas of things to try or to laugh about the whole concept.

Don't ask him to make promises he can't keep and don't accept any that he offers. If you can't work out a compromise that works for both of you, then you might need to ask yourselves 'is this a good relationship for us?'

Keep in mind that most people use some form of erotica when they masturbate even if it is their own thoughts. So, you might find someone who doesn't, but then that person might be lying to you.

[Synnen]

How old are you both?

[keona]

You can try watching it together don't get mad about the other girls you can learn what turns him on and do it to him you my see something you want him to do to you it can be hot

[jacobm28]

Um... guys will be guys, its always going to be around... and watching porn isn't bad, just cause he's getting off on it don't mean anything, either you accept that side of him and/or join him... or get out of it... its dumb to expect this kind of thing dropped cold turkey... like I said... GUYS WILL BE GUYS! Chill.

[JudyKayTee]

Ths is from October 2011 -

[jacobm28]

Yea.. didn't see date until after I answered...