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siaso · Oct 10, 2011, 10:00 AM

Hello people I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a year now and the problem is we couldn't see each other. Since we started our relationship every time we try to go out, something bad happens, and I am always available, but she is busy. And she stopped trying for like 6 months or more, and I don't have her phone number yet. She wants to give to me when we go out.

Our only way to talk is on the msn and there is no progress made in our relationship except we became pretty close to each other also whenever there is a holiday or any type of an opportunity for us to go out she goes out with her best friend, or her family, and now I am thinking of breaking up with her.

She is also my first girlfriend. Oh and I really like her, and she feels the same, but I don't know if I should wait any longer? Please help with your advice.

friend4u178 · Oct 10, 2011, 01:16 PM

It doesn't sound like the 2 of you are together anyway.

I would just stop contacting her and see if she pursues you , if she doesn't you will know she's not as interested as you think she is , that will save you the pain of having to break up as well.

If she does you can tell her how you feel , and let her know if this is going to work she will have to work at it.

Good luck!

K9_51 · Oct 10, 2011, 01:53 PM

Now doing that is just plain disrespectful friend4u178 if you do that to a girl she will never forgive you. You need to confront her about your relationship the next time you get a chance to talk. Find out if she is serious about the relationship and she is get her to make time for you at least one night a week. You don't need to see each other every day you don't even need to talk everyday but you still need to see her otherwise the spark could be lost.

siaso · Oct 10, 2011, 02:28 PM

I broke up with her and she is crying its damn painful :'( I am so hurt. I hate to see her cry I really hate it.

Thanks guys for all of the advice :(

Orca2040 · Oct 10, 2011, 08:29 PM

You shouldn't have broken up with her, tell her you're dreadfully sorry and don't want to break up, just cause you can't find time to be with her doesn't mean you shouldn't be togeather, I'm in a similar situation but would never want to lose my girl for that reason

vanheart · Oct 10, 2011, 11:49 PM

Glad you told her that this isn't working. Good man.

JoeCanada76 · Oct 11, 2011, 12:16 AM

I agree with others. It did not sound like much of a relationship in the first place. You did the right thing. You ended it. It obviously was no good and was going no where.

talaniman · Oct 18, 2011, 12:58 PM

How old are you both? Is on line the only way you see each other? Is this how you met? Have you ever seen each other in person?

siaso · Oct 22, 2011, 07:11 AM

@talaniman yea we used to take classes together and I really liked her and then she went to the university a year early and we could not see each other since then we could only talk online and then we decided to start a relationship and as I said we couldn't see each other at all

talaniman · Oct 22, 2011, 11:13 AM

That happens when situations and events get in the way. But since it didn't work which also happens, then you ended it and now must let go and move on. You both do.

Its so easy to become attached, and so hard to let go. Its sucks for you both, but that's what has to be done because obviously too much has gotten in the way, and you both had different priorities, and it just didn't work out.

Now leave her alone, no checking up, or trying to reconnect for now. Sure it will suck, but it will get better, and sanity will return.

vanheart · Oct 22, 2011, 04:50 PM

Its way better having someone that's right next to you, anyway.

Not far away.

Sometimes it all about the right time. This never truly got off the ground. That's OK. There will be others.

Put this out of your head. Its not worth your effort.

mmresd · Oct 25, 2011, 06:20 PM

Yeah, break up with her, what's the point?