[ellebelle]

So I've been dating my boyfriend for a little over 5 months. He is really really into me, and we've told each other that we love each other. And I always thought that I truly meant it. But we've been separated due to college, and I have a friend in another state who I've used to have feelings for, and I know he has feelings for me. He always says he's jealous of my boyfriend and things like that. Anyway, I'm not sure that all my feelings for him went away. The chances of us actually being together though are slim, since we live in different states, about 5 hours away. I like my boyfriend, he's sweet and cares for me so deeply, but I don't feel like I always get the attention I need. Especially being separated, I feel as though I've had a chance to look at our relationship, and though I could imagine my life with him, I don't know if it's exactly what I want at this point. All 3 of us are young, and I'm so confused. My boyfriend hates my out-of-state friend, and gets upset when I talk to him, knowing that I used to like him and that he still likes me. Basically I would love some advice on what to do. I don't want to lose my boyfriend because he knows everything about me and I think I do love him, but at the same time, my feelings for my other friend are resurfacing, and I have no idea what to do :/

[talaniman]

You cut the guy that likes you and you like him, lose and stop stirring up old feelings because you need attention from a guy.

Be loyal, or be gone. You are confusing your own self by talking to two guys.

[Rhyme4NoReason]

Just because your boyfriend knows everything about you, doesn't mean you should stay with him. Is that fair to you or to him? And if you two have exchanged 'I love yous' and you "think" you love him, uh, you're off to a wrong start. You've already lied.

Stop lying to yourself. You know what you want to do, but you're just scared to do.

Follow your heart. But remember, you don't leave someone you love for someone you like, because that someone you like will leave you for someone they love.

If you love yourself, be honest with yourself.

[Qwerasdfzxcv]

Don't leave the one you love for the one you like because the one you like will leave you for the one they love! Think about the situation about what's best maybe neither are good for you

[Fr_Chuck]

How young are you. First there is no reason a person can not like and have two boyfriends

[Kahani Punjab]

Ellebelle,

First, welcome to this beautiful site, dear!

Respect is the foundation of love, which is usually less apparent and more latent, but when you love each other, you can see thru' the faces, can read b/w the lines. So, do not first confuse yourself, as there can be two (or, even more) friends, but lover (s) - only one. This is the golden rule in humanity. I have three suggestions for you -
1. Sit with him and communicate your feelings.
2. Decide, on the basis of that communication, if you want to kep this love (if it is, or friendship, if it is so).
3. Commit and keep the commitment. Just see if you can...
4. Love blossoms in faith, it dissolves in doubt.
5. Remember, if you erect walls, the other person will not hesitate to do the same. In love, confidence is the basis, remember.