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sanchezk · Oct 1, 2011, 09:36 PM

Hey. Well I just got into a relationship about 3 months and a week ago. We hit it off quite well. We met and got to know one another and did not have sexual encounters with one another until about a month in. We talked to and texted each other every day. It was great. I had moved back to KY to try and get away from home, but I was leaving him behind. He was sad that I was leaving but kept pushing me to go because he said I was happier there. Once I was there, I realized I was not happy. I wanted to come back for him. Well one night, I accidentally told a fib when I was drinking to him that I was NOT drinking. And we tell each other EVERYTHING. I do not know why I did not tell him up front. I believe because I had not planned on it initially, that once I gave into peer pressure, I did not tell him I was, and then I was afraid he would be upset with me. (I know it's dumb). Well he took that to heart and said I lied to him, and that if I lied about something this small, what would stop me about lying about something major. I then INSTANTLY moved back here to NC to be around him. He was so upset that he went to TN for about a week (still there- he leaves tomorrow) to clear his head. He wanted space. We have talked on the phone after 2 days of not talking, and then he text me and what not. He wants to see me once he gets back, to go to dinner, a movie and then talk. But he said that yes, he has forgave me and that we need to move past it, but he does not let me call him "babe", "boo" or anything sweet of the sort right now. He said that he wants to take it slow and see where it goes. Like I am just so worried because I do not know if he wants to just be friends, or what. I am freaking out because I actually love this guy, and I have not told him yet. I was going to wait and tell him once he and I go out within the next day or so, but I do not want to seem like I am trying too hard. You know? What should I do guys? :-/

QLP · Oct 2, 2011, 03:19 AM

Three months, part of which you have been apart, is really not very long. I think it is a good idea for both of you to slow down a bit and get to know each other properly.

Remember to take some time away from him to do other things that you enjoy - don't spend all your time wondering when he will call and how he feels.

sanchezk · Oct 2, 2011, 07:40 AM

Thank you. Yeah, the three months and a week is what we have dated. This last week is where we got into the argument. The argument is very recent.

talaniman · Oct 2, 2011, 10:36 AM

You do nothing. You let him cool off, and get his head, and emotions together and you relax and make a promise to yourself to be honest in the future.

Pay attention, while you made a mistake with your fib, don't let him use this as control and leverage in disputes in the future. The thing is that you are still strangers learning each other, and you should not get carried away with pleasing him, or gaining his trust.

Don't panic, he needs to forgive, and move on, and you have to stay cool, calm, and collected, and alert.