[laurierodriguez]

My sis in law is young (25), is recently divorced. She has 3 young kids (5, 4 and 2) from her ex and now, there is another one on the way, due in November.
My husband and I will be moving to Florida soon and so my husband suggested for her to move there as well. She lived in PA (section 8 housing) for 3 years, she tried to get her GED and to learn English, however, she could not finish due to lack of child care. So if she finishes school, it sounds like you'd be the one stuck taking care of her children? After the divorce she moved to PR to get help from her mom and her sister, she has a brother out there but she does not get along with his wife, she figured she could get a job and finish her education, did not happen.In less than 4 months, she moved her family to NY to live with her single brother. Currently living in New York, she is waiting on Section 8 which has a 5 year waiting list. Now, with a baby on the way, she is trying to get her kids in school and eventually move them all to FL in February. My husband had the idea of getting an apartment for her in FL, he will put it under his name and when she arrives, he will change it into her name.
My husband has extremely bad credit. I have great credit, however I will not co sign.He says he will. What does he think? That we can afford to pay her first months rent. I mean, we have just enough to pay for the house we are getting soon. I love my sis in law but I am tired of him trying to get her out of these messes she creates. I think she should move back to PA, her ex and his family are there and continue her education there. I am afraid if she lives near us, our lives will change to accommodate her needs, my husband said he would babysit but with school and a job and a wife, how is he going to do that? I know I am being selfish but I just want to be able to just go out and do things and not have to plan around my sis in laws schedule. It seems like whenever she calls to talk to my husband, he has another dumb idea. The argument is always the same thing, his sister. What should I do?

[AJ_Hunsucker]

Well that conditions are a cruel outcome of recession. At first place, people don't have a job and those have a job, are getting little salary. Right now, your sis in law can't go back to her boy friend as she would not have left him if she had suitable conditions there. Right now, the problem is lack of money. Otherwise, everyone wants to help her. As you know, she has not completed her education. All you can advise her is to bring her mother with her. Only your mother in law can support her in child care. If you bring your mother in law also at your home, at least you will not have to adjust your timetable around your sis in law. As far as the money matters are concerned, if your mother in law takes care of children, definitely, your sis in law will have time to do some job and continue her study together.