[ScottGem]

Dear hheath tahnk you for your advice and yes he does pay child support and he is always there for his son he does pay child support ,he already takes care of his son more than the mother does and he doesn't even live with him i know this because we were outone night and his baby's mo called and was like aiden is sick and immediatley me and him both went over there and checked on him.

i appreaciate your advice
thanks!

Maybe he's not such a bad guy, but I'm still bothered by the sex discussion. You are 15 and sex should be off the table at least until you become legal age. Even then you should not engage in sexual intercourse until you are ready to have a baby of your own.

I would tell him point blank that you are not ready for sex yet (and you are not despite what you may think) and if that is a deal breaker, then you are sorry. If he goes along, then maybe the relationship is worth pursuing. But either way, you need to be upfront with your parents and go by what they say.

[Kahani Punjab]

Lexis2323,

It is nice that he 'does pay child support' but as I said earlier, the perception of a person differs from person to person. Love is not only SEX, remember it, and so, if SEX is the only thing on his mind, do not 'be' with him. Also, this is the time (as you are yet a minor) you have to study, learn and grow up. Friendship, infatuation, love and temptation are irresistible at this age/stage of life, but you must concentrate on other important things too. However, I will not stress upon leaving him for good, just CONSIDER your mom's instincts+experience+concerns-for-you. Also, wait and watch. Do not assume that if he is taking full care of that child, he will do the same to yours... So, think twice/thrice/many-times, before you jump the bandwagon.

Final word - if you are good, nobody is going to hurt you, but why to be gullible/vulnerable. Your body is yours, and until and unless you allow someone to 'control' you, nobody can't, not even any devil/god! So, be cautious.

GOOD LUCK!!