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whit17 · Sep 10, 2011, 09:51 AM

So I am graduating in May of 2012, and my boyfriend will not be. I really don't want to leave him, and he says it slays him that I am going to leave. I said he could come with me and we could live in that couples housing on campus and he said he might. What happens if he can't? I will be 8 hours away from him and god knows how often I will see him. I don't want to leave! What do I do?

Wondergirl · Sep 10, 2011, 09:53 AM

Go instead to a local community college for your first two years of college.

Fr_Chuck · Sep 10, 2011, 11:43 AM

Agreed, why don't you to to a local college. I know "couples" housing on campus is married couples not living together couples.

You said he is not graduating or he is not going to college ?

talaniman · Sep 10, 2011, 03:58 PM

I think you talk and make arrangements to stay in touch so you can secure a future in case you do stay together. That's what mature couples do, they forge ahead with what is necessary, and deal with whatever they have to, and stay together no matter what life throws at them.

Neither of you should want you to miss a chance to better yourselves because you can't do the adult thing of dealing with your situation.

Go to school, and let him follow when he can. Encourage him to get his, like you need to get yours. A relationship if its strong enough, can endure obstacles and challenges, but should stop anyone from moving forward, it should enhance it.

This is but a challenge, a test, don't panic, and blow your opportunities, for the future. Love don't pay the rent, an education can. Chose your actions wisely.

Ask yourself, why isn't he graduating with you? I would love to know that myself.

whit17 · Sep 12, 2011, 07:23 AM

He isn't graduating on time because he transferred from another school and his credits didn't match up with our credits. We have block scheduling.

talaniman · Sep 12, 2011, 10:00 AM

Then he will graduate soon, and can then catch up. Handle the important business of your educations, and the relationship will be fine. Sure you may miss each other. That's not a bad thing. It just adds flavor to the recipe. Distance is but an obstacle to overcome, and that's what a relationship is all about. Overcoming whatever life throws at you together. Sometimes the bodies can be separated, but as long as the minds are together, anything can be handled.

Just don't panic, prepare, through planning, for a temporary separation, by getting the lines of communications in place, that works for you both. Conflicting schedules, and obligations don't have to mean conflicting goals.