[Wango]

I have been married for two years now, and a baby who is one year now. Since the baby my husband has been so cold towards me, he works away and whenever he is away he never calls to check on us, I do all the calling, he can no longer even do something small for me. He holds grudge for things I can not even remember doing,I have been nice to him, I go out of the way for him but I feel he does not care about me anymore. He is rude at times and does not even care how I feel. A m just confused and I do not want our marriage to end. He does not even want to talk about the problems he dismisses them as no big deal. What should I do? Am I psychologically disturbed?

[joypulv]

Where do you live? Maybe we can find you some counseling. He may be the one who needs it, but it can help you cope and make decisions. Some men change a lot after babies are born. He may be worried about financial responsibility. We can't know. Try to find other mothers in your neighborhood or town who you can meet with and talk at the park or in a group. It's important to not be isolated. With friends you won't need his attention so much and you will be more interesting to him just by telling stories.

[talaniman]

I think you are still recovering from a life changing event, you and your husband, and you both need a bit of time to make adjustments to the changes in both your lives. It will happen in time. For now, I think regular check ups, and just enjoy being a new mom, and taking your baby for a lot of fresh air, and meeting other new moms would help you cope, while you heal, and adjust.

No you are not crazy, just human, and its normal for new parents to trip out a bit.