[Purple143]

I have been with my now fiancé for 10 years on and off. I have been feeling doubtful about the whole relationship for a while but he is my comfort. Ever since he proposed I have been looking at everything in a deeper perspective, I don't have passionate feelings for him anymore and he's not my dream guy. I love him so much and he's really fun to be around and we have a lot of amazing memories but I feel like I'm alone sometimes because we just "hang out" when we are together and also does a lot of things that really bother me a lot. I don't feel that romantic feeling anymore. I try to tell him how I have been feeling and get the courage to leave but I hate seeing him hurt and I get suckd back in. What should I do?

[Alty]

You have to be honest with him.

There's no way to do this without him getting hurt, but the only other alternative is for you to marry him. That's obviously not what you want.

You have to be strong about this. Sit down with him, tell him that you care about him a lot, but you're not in love with him anymore. Tell him what you said here, that you agreed to marry him because he's your comfort, but you have no romantic feelings for him.

This will be hard for you too. Ten years is a long time, and I'm sure you'll miss having him around. But that's not a reason to marry someone.