[talaniman]

You talk a good talk, but you relapsed back to the old actions.

Walk away and stay away. Clearly she ain't the one. Despite your efforts to make her the one. So the solution is the same one you have been getting, but not doing.

YOUR words, and actions don't match, so start by doing what you say you are going to do.

Intentions don't mean SQUAT!!

[Homegirl 50]

The problem is, she is not the one for you.
You solve it by walking away and leaving it alone.

[icalltheshot]

Just an update. Ex called me over the weekend twice. Once on sat and one on Sunday. Second time left a message saying it is nothing important just want to know how I am doing and if I have time to call her back

I've been nc since last time I was here. Life is great meet new friends and new people. I stopped hanging out with the group she hang out with. Talman I took your advice and keeping it real.

[talaniman]

That's great, what are you going to do if she keeps calling?

[icalltheshot]

No clue man but my friend is introducing me to a new girl she said very good potential so I want to give myself a chance. I guess I'll put my ex in the back burner. Beside she said it is nothing important just see how I am doing.

[icalltheshot]

She wrote me a long email. Said she called me twice but I didn't pickup. She asked how I am doing and did I go anywhere? And talk about how we first met and say thank you for introduce her to a great group of friends. Also she said I am someone who she will always respect. She ask why I am not hanging out with them anymore. She ask is it because of her and if it is then she'll leave them because she doesn't want me to lose my friends. She said she doesn't want to ask to be my friend neither because she know we both feel uncomfortable. She said please come back to the group because nobody get mad forever.

I think this is BS. It've been 3 months. I mean if she doesn't want to hang out with them because she was concerned about me then she should have left after we broke up. She also knows that she can't be my friend then why asking me to go back to the group when she will be there.

This is what I will write back or should I write back at all?

Hi

Thanks for your concern I am not mad at you but I am extremely busy these days and don't have time to hang out that often anymore. Don't lose some great friend because of me.

Take care.

[talaniman]

Frankly I see no point in responding at all, because she is just stroking her own guilt, or maybe others have blamed her for your absence. None of this matters to you and what you are doing now. I would go about my own business, and let her figure things out for herself.

[icalltheshot]

Thanks for the tip Tal. You are absolutely right.