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Dupstep · Jul 20, 2011, 05:47 PM

My ex boyrfiend and I were together for 11 months although he broke up with me because the relationship was beginning to fail and there was way too much fighting. A few days ago he inboxed me to thank me for wishing him a happy birthday and we began talking for hours for the first time in 4 months. It felt so good to be talk to him again although before we did begin talking I was aware he had a new girlfriend. We've been talking for a few days now and he's even been txting me a fair bit lately, so much that I'm beginning to get the sense he still likes me. Each time we talk he always shows he cares for me still, and we get along so well although he also shows the same happiness and excitement he use to back when we were going out which almost makes me think that he may be missing me and wishes we could start a relationship again. Although yesterday I did see him and his current girlfriend being very intimate over Facebook which makes me wonder whether I'm just being used as something to fall back on if his relationship fails.

Just need to know what's going on in his head, because I do still love him.

talaniman · Jul 20, 2011, 07:28 PM

Sorry to say that your FALSE HOPE has put you in the friend zone, and an option just in case the new girl doesn't work out. Whether he intends to or not, he is stringing you along, and keeping you from healing, and moving on to better things yourself.

Don't allow it, and you are allowing it because you don't honestly speak up for yourself. That the downside of false hope. You don't do the right things for yourself.

kcomissiong · Jul 21, 2011, 07:01 AM

I actually can't tell if he is leading you on or, if he is just being a friend and you are seeing more there because you still have feelings for him. Either way, he is off limits as he is seeing someone else. If you aren't at a point where you can handle being friends with him without your old feelings becoming involved, then you have to cut off the friendship, and take some time to heal. And, if he is honestly your friend and not stringing you along, he would understand that.

amicon · Jul 21, 2011, 07:13 AM

Go back to not talking-you're probably his backup plan if things go wrong with the new girl-not a good place to be.

You need to get over him-the most quick way is to go no contact and start living your own life.