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Hope Posts: 1, Reputation: 1 · Jul 9, 2011, 12:42 AM

All right well first off, I put love in quotations because I am only 16 and I doubt that the word in certain ways even applies to me at this time, and truthfully I just sort of want to have some sort of reasurance on me finding someone because the answer seems to "flicker", if that makes sense. I am possibly one of the few good guys in my school and I can't help but try and find a girlfriend even if that's not exactly what I should be focusing on at this point in my life, but I'm stuck with the "curse" of being a hopeless romantic and so it's reeaallly hard for me not to think or act upon it. I guess I just really don't get why I've yet to get a girlfriend when I'm a decent looking guy, I'm decently confident, I'm fit (as I've been doing Martial arts and parkour since I was 2), and I've been making it a point to try and meet new people and ultimately find a girl, and although it's a strong majority that she may not be "the one" I still feel like I need a girlfriend although as to the reasoning behind it, I find myself beyond words or beyond comprehension. So on that I simply ask again for something you may believe could help me in some way, shape, or form.
Thanks in advance.

amicon · Jul 9, 2011, 04:56 AM

Focus upon not needing a girlfriend-focus on making friends.

Needy is not attractive and once you relax and live a life you're happy with the oppurtunity to meet the right person will sort it self out.

Jake2008 · Jul 9, 2011, 05:15 AM

I think at your age, it is natural that you would be interested in having a girlfriend. Likely many of your friends do, and maturing and hanging out and doing things as couples, is a natural part of growing up. I'm not sure if I'm in the ballpark here when I say that. But it seems to me you are ready and mature enough to have a girlfriend.

And that is what you want.

I am curious as to what you have done to move in that direction. Is there actually a girl you are interested in? Have you dated before now?

It seems to me that you are doing all the right things. Meeting new people, keeping yourself busy with school and activities. I don't know why you would consider yourself a 'hopeless romantic'- what does that mean.

Maybe it's a matter of just taking things up a notch. If you find you are interested in a girl, ask her out. Nothing major- ask if she might be interested in seeing a movie with you sometime. There is a 50/50 chance that she will say yes, and you have nothing to lose.

You are lucky you are 16 because there is no hurry or rush, and I don't get the impression you would have a girlfriend just to have a girlfriend. Take your time, maybe try to date more, and not necessarily with just one girl. Date, have fun, keep things in perspective.

ZenWarrior · Jul 9, 2011, 07:06 AM

All right well 1st off I was forced to change my username to this one here do to login problems with the one I posted this question on. And to answer the question on what is a hopeless romantic in short they are people who are "in love with love" this did a pretty good job on expanding on what it is though: http://www.urbandictionary.com/iphone/#define?term=hopeless%20romantic

talaniman · Jul 9, 2011, 11:17 AM

Have you actually asked a girl out?

ZenWarrior · Jul 9, 2011, 03:20 PM

To answer Talanim yes I have ask a girl out, a few actually but all of them but one said the same thing: "i just want to be friends". The one girl that didn't say that was my first girlfriend who broke up with me after a week because, and I quote "I'm not used to dating a nice guy, I usually date jerks" -__-