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jenbug · Jun 10, 2011, 10:27 AM

My boyfriend and I have been together a year and a half and all of a suddeun we can't have sex that much beacause he says" were not teenagers anymore" I'm 26 he's 35

hheath541 · Jun 10, 2011, 10:37 AM

Is that the only reason he's giving? Is it possible there's a medical problem preventing it?

How often is 'that much?' how often did you have sex? How often are you having sex now?

You guys are nowhere near too old to have sex. My guess is that there's either a medical or psychological reason he can't have sex, or he's looking for an excuse not to.

SindySweets · Jun 10, 2011, 10:39 AM

Big age difference, that's one. At his age, he might have different ideas or intentions than you. You're younger, still in the 20s which means your drive is still hot, while his might be breaching lukewarm. Talk to him about it, or maybe add some new ideas to spice things up :)

Wondergirl · Jun 10, 2011, 10:42 AM

Is it the actual sex you are missing, or is it the closeness, the hugs, the togetherness, the loving and touching that you miss?

Fr_Chuck · Jun 10, 2011, 06:54 PM

Yes 35 is way over the hill ( LOL)

No men and women into their 60s, 70's and more are sexually active.

If he has a illness, high blood pressure, stress, worry, perhaps a job change or loss. Can all stop a man from performing. ( if that is the issue)

Synnen · Jun 10, 2011, 08:59 PM

I'd like to know how much "that much" is, frankly.

I'm 36, and I can't have sex 13 times a day anymore, either.

martinizing2 · Jun 11, 2011, 02:19 AM

If all you have talked about with him is that you are concerned about the diminished sex in your relationship , you could start by increasing the level of your communication.

Has anything else been discussed? How much has the sex diminished ?
Why did you ask about you being too ugly or old ? Did he say something to you to make you feel like this? (other than the teenagers comment)

The way to solve a majority of problems is through communication to exchange ideas and let the other know how you feel.
You have given very little information which makes it hard to try to give any relevant advice.

More information is required to give a more specific answer.

Wondergirl · Jun 11, 2011, 08:06 AM

Originally Posted by SindySweets

you're younger, still in the 20s which means your drive is still hot, while his might be breaching lukewarm.

Actually, biologically, men reach their sexual peak at 18 and it's all downhill from there, whereas women don't reach their peak until age 40 and older.

SindySweets · Jun 11, 2011, 04:17 PM

Wondergirl, regardless of a girls sexual peak, many are crazy sexual before even that age (including me), it doesn't change the fact she still wants sex more than he does

Wondergirl · Jun 11, 2011, 04:48 PM

Originally Posted by SindySweets

Wondergirl, regardless of a girls sexual peak, many are crazy sexual before even that age (including me), it doesn't change the fact she still wants sex more than he does

And wanting more sex may not be the issue at all.

You were turning it into a biological issue that is simply not valid.

Alty · Jun 11, 2011, 05:19 PM

My husband and I are both 40 and still going strong, so it's not an age issue.

This sounds like either a medical issue or a psychological issue. Have the two of you talked about this and his reasons?

paleophlatus · Jun 12, 2011, 02:01 PM

It's the guy who is saying enough is enough.

Maybe he is still having the same amount of sex, only dividing it up a bit. Could be another good reason to have a sit down conversation.