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Jul 10, 2011, 07:53 PM
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Im really sorry to hear about your dilemma and I understand how much you must be hurting right now but here is what I seriously think. Either this guy is a player or he truly doesn't care about u. First, you guys were friends, you talked about everything and he said he was casually dating, yet when he started to date her seriously, he didn't let you know. Ok, lets say he didn't have a chance to cause you guys lost contact, did he even tell you that at first when you met again? Let me guess, he did not!! Ok, so he did not tell you that, but he did say he had a connection with you that he didn't have with his girlfriend, does that mean he loves you more? Not exactly, remember you guys talked a lot and you shared everything, so you must have a connection but that doesn't mean true love, true friends? Yes, but not necessarily true love. And what's worst is that you guys went out and you were around him, you both slept in the same room, literally but he waited until you were leaving to admit his true feelings.Why? Prob because he like your company and would hate for you to go, or he probably just want to have you around, you know, just in case or he probably thought he would get lucky.
You said you got upset and you left and he waited a month! A whole month to confront you about his deep undying, true affections for u, like really, a month!! And then he says something like he wished you had told him sooner,REALLY?? I mean, he is the one going around dating, you were always there AND... if he felt so strongly about you, what does it matter when you told him, if he loved and wanted you like he said he did, it should just be a happy time for him, it shouldn't matter when you told him but that you did tell him and that should've changed everything. And darling, no man, none whatsoever who truly, deeply loves a woman would ever agree to cut all ties with her, are you crazy? He's going to want to be with u, even if its just casual friends, what,I love you enough to let you go? Please, he was happy to let go of this girl who clearly was obsessed with him, I'm not saying you were, but he could be thinking that.
I know your hurting but its been 18 months, you are the only one losing sleep over it, he hasn't contacted u. I know its hard but you really have to move on, its not worth it.I know your going to say you will never find anyone else like him but you will and love doesn't hurt that much, it's a wonderful feeling that makes people laugh and smile and blush, not cry and have sleepless nights for 18months, your in lust and you have a big crush on your friend. I mean, he never even called to see how you were doing? c'mon, you have to figure a way to get over him and get on with your life, date people, not for finding the perfect person but date to find friends, right now your vulnerable and so ull gravitate to anyone who has the slightest bit of qualities has he does, so, go out, meet people, men and women, try to establish your sense of pride, strength and develop your character, remould yourself and find quality in life and friends and just like magic, ull find love,believe me... im your friend >PERSONAL INFO REMOVED< Take care and ill pray for you my sister.
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