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Hello,
I am a 15 year old boy and my best friend (also a boy) is getting close to going through puberty. He is only 7 1/2, but on the inside, he is starting to change, and physical appearance will start coming soon. We go to church together, so I don't feel comfortable talking to him about it; besides, it is the parents job to talk to him about puberty. I don't want him to grow up, I am used to my cute, funny friend that I can hug every time I see him. He is going to become a man. He is so loving, and I don't want him to change. I worry about him; I don't want him to start masturbating and fantasizing about sex. I worry about him having uncontrollable erections. I worry about him getting pubic hair, getting a deep voice, getting muscles, growing tall. I worry about his penis and testicles growing and him having wet dreams.

I'm not gay or weird or a child... I don't know what the word is... child bad something. This boy is the one and only friend that I have and I am worried about him. So, my question is, how do I emotionally get myself through this time. I have been really worried about my friend. I also know 7 1/2 might still be a little while before puberty, but it is going to happen to him eventually. If any Christian is reading this, is there scripture to get me through rough times like this? Please help, I have actually considered suicide because I am so worried about my friend and him not wanting to change. PLEASE help me get through this time. Thank you all, God bless.

[Fr_Chuck]

Yes, get over it, it is not your choice, he will at some point go though it, I hope you have already. If you are really his friend, you will be there for him. I guess also I may ask why a 15 year old has his "best friend" how is only 7 and is wanting to "hug" him all the time.

Let me see advice, let him grow up, find friends your own age.

[Wondergirl]

Why is your friend's maturing and going through puberty a bad thing? (Has puberty been bad for you?) It's a good thing to mature! He will someday be able to have girlfriends and find the right one whom he will marry and have children with. I see a rich and full life ahead for him!

Do you see your friendship with him disappearing as his interests change and as he starts having crushes on girls?

[Wowza]

Well, my friend is also going through puberty, even though she is a girl, not a boy. I'm a small bit confused, but even more concerned. Usually, I let her just Endlessly talk about every single detail. I was thinking it might help for a boy just the same.