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I am a young lady in my mid twenties. Kind and really friendly and has been
I am a young lady in my mid twenties. Kind and really friendly and has been
Through so much. I so resent my mother’s family. Ill refer to my mother’s Siblings as follows B-female (Mother’s older sister) E-male (Uncle) E is the last born and we were living with him at my gran’s place. He just Used to bring different ladies (More than 20different) up until he got married In 2008. The wife was from a really disadvantage background and all she had was Some grey long skirt and big outdated shoes. My mother gave her some of her Clothes, night dresses and even bought her kid(from previous r-ship) clothes (before meeting him)and supporting them financially as my uncle’s wife only Got a job in 2008 as a security guard and she would even buy her nappies and my Uncle doesn’t earn a decent salary.. She started changing… Getting along With my mother’s sister (B) and bad mouthing us whenever she would visit her (she stays in the rural areas). And that house where she lives in a family House. Just recently my uncle wasn’t working and my mother would pay tuition fee and Help out whenever she could for my 15 year old cousin who attended a private School. Because my uncle’s wife couldn’t support her as she is her step Daughter. What happened is that my uncle borrowed R6000 from me in order to buy a car and I told him I don’t have it. He and the wife then started calling the sister(B) Telling her that impilo ayisekho mnandi (because I didn’t borrow him the Money)endlini thus my mother should move out and go rent a place as they cant Because they have a kid(which means me and my siblings we not that important, we can Go rent a place) . My mother is a single lady and she couldn’t afford getting her own house Besides, she tried and ended up being crooked by some family now she is paying 4800 per month for a house she doesn’t stay in. she wanted me to get educated (and I did) so I could help her out. I feel it’s wrong to treat my mother this Way as my gran’s place it’s still her home (last born rule of saying the Last one inherits the house is unfair). How could they treat her this way? Especially after everything she has done for them? And isn’t that bo makoti Are supposed to bring peace and not cause more fights? We finally moved Aza and mama entered into another bond. I am thankful to God For that and am finally free. My problem is I can’t forgive. It has hurt my Mother so much Aza and as a result its hurting me I can’t forgive aunt B and My uncle and his wife because family is suppose to be there for you and not Hurt you. I keep wishing them bad things. I am a Christian but I feel can’t Heal up until something bad happens to them. Has any listener been hurt by Family. How did they get over it? Is this normal? I just want to move on and Concentrate on making new memories in the new house with my mother and my Siblings and have a relationship with God. If I don’t forgive I may pay the Price repeatedly by bringing anger and bitterness into every relationship and New experience. My life may become so wrapped up in the wrong that I can’tenjoy the present. Thanks in advance. |
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Where are you? I can't quite understand all of the problems. As a side note I don't think it's "kind" or "Christian" (both words which you use to describe yourself) not to be able to forgive and to "keep wishing bad things" on your enemies. I think you have to put this behind you and move on. Possibly that is easier said than done. I'm not sure this shouldn't be on a religious board because I don't understand the terms you use. |
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Here it is... short and sweet. You say your life is better now that you moved and all that drama is in your past. SO MOVE ON! Choose and decide to let it go. It's in your power... you just haven't chosen it yet. DO IT! You say you're Christian and a believer in God... time to put your money where your mouth is. :) You wouldn't be the first to have to shake something off and "reboot".
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Thanks guys. Its just I feel maybe I would feel better if we all sat and talked about this as a family. @Judy, I am in south africa. I meant that as a christian you come across such problems and thus start questioning other things. Sorry I used south african language. Bo makoti means sister in laws Impilo ayisekho mnandi means- life is not okay Thanks Sweet Dee. I needed to hear that |
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