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    Linuxf Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Apr 24, 2011, 04:35 PM
    Do I break up with my girlfriend?
    My girlfriend of three years recently told me she wanted a break and I managed to get it out of her that she wanted a breaks o that she could tell other guys she was single and see if she'd get some attention and see if she could live life without me. I can understand her commitment issues but after hearing this I broke up with her there and then. However we got back together again but decided to give each other some space. She began to act slightly different around me when I did get to see her and told me she was going shopping with her friend Kerrie. I found out a few days later that she'd actually gone out with another guy. I felt foolish to take her back but she told me she called things off because she was being stupid and she wanted to be with me. She then called up the next day to apologise and tell me she loved me. But it doesn't end there. She was going out with her friends and I knew that this guy was going ot be there too and everyone usually goes back to his place after to crash so I told her id prefer it if she didn't and she told me that she'd get a lift home. The next day I couldn't get through to her at all and her mum eventually text me to ask if I was with her. She was off radar for 12hours until she appeared at home. I then spoke to her and found out she had stayed at this guys house and it was just the two of them and they made out. I feel stupid even asking if I should break up with her because how can I trust her again if she's lied ot me so easily and done this stuff. But I love her too much to live without her and I don't want to lose her. I feel like a fool and I've told her she needs to give me a reason to stay with her and prove to me that she wants to be with me. Am I being stupid?
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    Apr 24, 2011, 05:53 PM

    Are you stupid. Well no, your in love. But are your decsions stupid. Yeah very much so.

    Listen, this was over when she broke up with you the first time. Anything after that was just hanging out or hanging on until she found another person.

    Telling her that if she wants you she'll have to prove it to you is... well stupid. She doesn't want you, so she has nothing to prove. If she wanted you, she'd be with you and not nailing... I mean "making out" this other guy.

    It's tough after 3 years to walk away, but it's a lot tougher to find your dignity after you constantly give it away. At least hold on to what you have at this point and end... what is already ended. Return her stuff, get yours and keep separated.
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    Apr 24, 2011, 06:53 PM

    Let this one go, it will be hard for a while, but in the long run, it will be the best thing you'll ever do for yourself.
    How can you marry someone, raise kids and a family with someone like that. You're a fool if you trust her again, and you cannot have a future with someone you can't trust. You just can't. Therefore, there's no point in wasting any more time or emotion on this one.

    Let her go have her sick fun,
    And you'll be moved on and laughing when she's crying back all used up one day!
    Tough it out, a lot of times you really don't notice that the love you think you have is nothing (when compared to the real one later on) Trust me, this isn't the one. Don't settle.
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    Apr 25, 2011, 08:55 AM
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    I think nailing is right..
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    Apr 25, 2011, 01:53 PM
    By the way you write I wouldn't say that your stupid, however you actions do need some common sense thrown into them. She doesn't want to be with you, that part is obvious... So stop sticking around and go live your life somewhere else where maybe you will meet a girl who wants to be with YOU and not wants to put you as a backup while she goes out and bangs other guys.

    Good luck,
    Javi
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    Apr 25, 2011, 02:18 PM

    So how long are you going to wonder if your stupid, before you do the smart thing and dump this lying cheater.

    "Stupid is as stupid does"-Wise American.
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    Apr 25, 2011, 09:55 PM
    You are being played big time.

    Are you embarrassed? Now?

    You should be. Are you awake?

    She's making out & you are crying about her.

    Boo-f-ing Hoo...

    Lying, cheater is right! Who's crying. Not her.
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    Apr 26, 2011, 12:59 AM

    She lies,she cheats-reality check-time to end this mess.
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    Apr 27, 2011, 11:10 AM
    Don't waste your time and life for a stupid cheater.And of-course you need to get rid of it!

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