[Jimmy78]

I hate when people break up with you, tell you to stay away from them and when you give them what they ask for they get upset and say that your wrong for treating them like this. Or they ask you can we still be friends after ripping your heart out, I mean do these people really think they can have everything the same without having to put out like a girlfriend/boyfriend.

[chuff]

Well I think they want the best of both worlds. They want to break up with you, but they also don't want to deal with the pain of the break up.

[talaniman]

That's why sometimes a break up is a good thing, because you can do your thing, and tell them to get screwed.

I know that's harsh, but so what, screw 'em, and whatever else they expect of you.

Talaniman Rule - When you get dumped, revoke ALL their g/f, b/f privileges.

Then it doesn't matter what they expect, or do, because it's their problem now, not yours.

[wonderlife]

To answer to your question is "Yes, they think they can", which is so horrible most of them think that way. But it's all up to you to make your ex see that he/she can have NOTHING. You know what? My ex did and said almost all those things you post here. But I can tell you here that:

1) If we DON'T ALLOW all these behaviors, we DON'T RECTIFY them by having any actions, we act NOTHING and completely "INDIFFERENCE" with them. What's else they can do? Nothing! And what's else they can have or take from us? Nothing!

2) Please read all NC rules here. If we just cut them out of our life by going no contact (NC) with them and start living our own life, we won't have to be bothered by them or any craps that drive us crazy or upset anymore.

Being dumped is bad enough. Please don't make all those who dump us have some sort of satisfaction that they can always get either positive or negative attentions from us or they can still have some effect on us in any way.

End is end. Cry as much as you want, feel the pain, and then move on.

[Sumitkumar7266]

Well said talaniman--I liked this line:

Talaniman Rule - When you get dumped, revoke ALL their g/f, b/f privileges.

Really we should be harsh to them who are selfish and want everything by their way.. When they want they can do the break up and when they want they will come back and say to be the friend.. Treat them as you never loved them.. They are like other people whom you don't know.. I follow the same.. A broken relationship is a broken relationship.Never give the second chance to them who are selfish..

You will get many in the earth but not the same one.. Never