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Alligrl93 · Apr 3, 2011, 08:19 PM

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and two months.. Were both 17, I'm going to basic training for the army reserves in two months.. Today we broke up.. My parents decided that because he was "rude" (he was sick and almost got fired from his job so was upset) last time he was at our house that we could no longer see each other or talk to each other.. We had to break up... I love him and he loves me.. We want to be together but are nit sure how to make it work anymore... I'm asking for help... If to give a better opinion you think more info would help just ask...

Oh, and we also have had sex, but after the condom slid off one time I got pregnant and then miscarried.. After that we haven't had sex and that was almost 5 months ago..

Wondergirl · Apr 3, 2011, 08:43 PM

A one-time "rude" caused your parents to dislike him? Or is there more than that?

Alligrl93 · Apr 3, 2011, 08:49 PM

My mother is into some bad stuff and she can be very illogical at times.. But they think I can do better than him but forget the fact they had me when they were my age and are still together.. So it's not like they don't believe in young love

Wondergirl · Apr 3, 2011, 09:03 PM

Well, your life is going to be busy and away from home for at least a couple of years now. The military allows all sorts of electronic contact with loved ones. Is there any reason you can't stay in contact with him and see where things go?

Alligrl93 · Apr 4, 2011, 12:35 AM

Very good point, I'll talk to him about that

talaniman · Apr 4, 2011, 09:21 AM

I can understand them protecting you from anything that could prevent you from getting better options, and opportunities for a better future than they had. They know from experience about young love, and want better for you. Listen to them, because very soon you will be on your own, and can make your own decisions, and pay your own costs to be the boss.

I think you obey them, and see what the service makes of you.

Alligrl93 · Apr 17, 2011, 08:39 AM

Threads have been merged for the full story about this relationship.

My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and a few weeks ago took a short break.. Originally we had broken up because we weren't allowed to see each other (were both 17 and my parents don't like us dating, but like him as a person if that makes any sense). Anyway, we had broken up but soon after were allowed to see each other but we decided to take a short break.. About a week later we got back together an things were better than ever.. But now with prom 2 weeks away and I already bought my dress/shoes/jewelry because he had promised to take me but now is refusing to go with me and I have no date.. His argument was that he doesn't have the money but my parents are paying for the tickets and his mom is paying for his tux rental and he still refuses to go.. He knows I've wanted to go to a masquerade prom since I was little but it doesn't change anything.. Am I being selfish for wanting him to go with me or is it the other way around? And what should I do?

amicon · Apr 17, 2011, 10:42 AM

You talk to him and find out what his real reasons for not wanting to take you are.

Seems there's more to it than meets the eye...

Fr_Chuck · Apr 17, 2011, 01:54 PM

While I agree something does not sound right,

But he should come over and explain and tell them he is sorry.

Remember to some adults, a child showing disrespect at any time to an adult is very wrong

Alligrl93 · Apr 20, 2011, 07:26 AM

Threads merged

My boyfriend an I have been together for over a year, I do love him, we've been through a lot together. Lately though we've been fighting a lot, about him refusing to go to prom (my parents volunteered to pay for the ticket and his tux and gas and he still refused to go), about my parents not letting us see each other, and about little stuff.. I love him and cherish our friendship that is the root of our relationship. (we were friends for 7 years before we started dating). I also just found out that not one but TWO of my very close guy friends has feelings for me... Ben (also an ex who I became very good friends with after the breakup) told me he had feelings for me after I had went to him for advice about my boyfriend (Steven). He's a very good friend and I don't want to hurt him.. He's not pushing me to end it but it makes the friendship awkward, and my feelings for him never completely faded either.. My other friend [Jack( who is bisexual)] also had admitted his feelings for me when we were getting his tux fitted because he's my prom date! He's my best friend in the world and also has a boyfriend (keep in mind he's bisexual, not gay).. Steven (my boyfriend) doesn't know either guy has feelings for me but doesn't like either of them.. And on top of all this I leave for basic training for the army in about a month... What should I do!?

ajwain · Apr 20, 2011, 08:10 AM

Firstly you make up your mind as to with whom you want to be in a relation with!you can't please all 3 of them together.. give yourself time if you are unable to decide anything.go for your training!what's the hurry?

amicon · Apr 20, 2011, 08:27 AM

Firstly, all your threads should be merged for continuity.

Secondly,why are you and your boyfriend unable to discuss your problems and solve them?

Thirdly,why bring other guys,never mind their feelings for you into the equation?

What is the real problem here?

mmresd · Apr 20, 2011, 08:54 AM

What should you do about what??

You have one guy who is your ex, if you have feelings for him then why are you with your current boyfriend?

Another bisexual guy who you are going to prom with, who likes you, but if you two are friends tell him that that is all you are going to be, because going to prom with him might mislead him.

And then there is your boyfriend who you are having little arguments with (which will always happen). If you want to be with him then there is no problem, just stop looking at the possibilities with the other two guys. Also, it seems as if you don't know what you want... At all.

So, why don't you stay alone for a while and think about why it is that your confused about a situation where no real problem exists. I think the juggling your mind is doing between all three of them is the only thing that is making you confused. Use your time in basic training for yourself and stop wrapping yourself up in so much drama.

Good luck,
Javi