[dalejung09]

I'm still virgin and I had a plan to have a sex with my boy friend and I'm anxious and afraid of getting pregnant, what is the best way to do?

[NukeNC]

Use a condom and if you want to be extra careful go on birth control. You might have to wait a little longer, but better to be covered on both ends.

[talaniman]

Get all the information you can about avoiding pregnancy. But the fact is no matter what you use, its not 100% effective.

Abstinence is the only 100% birth control known to mankind. Quite a dilemma isn't it? How old are you?

[Alty]

You should be afraid of getting pregnant. Even if you use every birth control method out there, at the same time, and correctly, the chance of getting pregnant is still there.

If you're not ready to have a child, you shouldn't have sex. If you have sex, you have to know that every time you do, pregnancy is a possibility. Makes enjoying it kind of hard, doesn't it?

[grammadidi]

Sweetie, if you are having those feelings and fears then you are nowhere near ready to do this. You need to educate yourself further with regards to sex, love, disease & pregnancy. Do you have anyone close to you (adult) who you can share your thoughts and fears with? Is there a guidance counselor at school or a teacher you really trust? Can you talk to your parents, grandparents or an aunt/uncle?

At any rate, the previous advice is very good. You MUST protect yourself against disease and pregnancy and you should not have sex unless you are prepared to emotionally, physically and financially be responsible for a baby/child - possibly one with problems. Realize that teen pregnancy often results in a low birth weight delivery with physical, mental and emotional problems and a low income single parent home. Not to mention that you will increase your risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases AND, most importantly, increase your risk of cervical cancer. Please take more time to learn about these things and be sure this is really what you want. It's not just your life at stake, but your boyfriend's, both of your families, and potentially your yet-unborn child's. Take your time to make sure you are doing the right thing. I always say 'When in doubt - DON'T!'

You have a lot of living ahead of you. I hope you don't ruin it by making a decision that can hurt you (and others) the rest of your life. I know of what I write... I was there many, many years ago. It affects your life forever. Be sure you are ready for that!

Hugs, Didi

[Alty]

Didi, you are wonderful. Your advice is so heart felt, so kind, and right on the money.

I had to spread the rep, but I agree 100%. Sadly I see so many of these threads each day that I think I've lost that personal touch, and just go for the facts. I'm glad you came along to give it that personal aspect. :)

[grammadidi]

Thank you, Altenweg. I don't think you have lost your personal touch at all, by the way. :) I have lived through many things and I want to share that with others. I hope the original poster, and others like her, doesn't have to go through 1/2 of what I did in life. I speak from my heart... and I know that you do as well.

Warm hugs, Didi

[Alty]

Thanks Didi. That's what I love about this site, so many different people, all with many different experiences, trying to help others.

There are times I'm grumpy and could be nicer, but I think everyone has those days. Reading your post really made me remember why I'm here, why I post. I thank you for that. :)

By the way, you can call me Alty, it's much easier. :)

Now, before I get in trouble for hijacking this thread, I just wanted to say that I think you're great. See you on the boards. :)

[ScottGem]

How old are you? How long have you been with your boyfriend? I've said it before. NO ONE should engage in sexual intercourse until they are physically, emotionally and financially prepared to have a child.