As we pray in last Ayah of Al-Baqarah, it was already promised by Allaah to His Rasuul -sAaws- that He forgave us our mistakes we make due to forgetfulness and accidentally. In the tafsiirs of that Ayah you can learn more about it. Basically an `accident` in that context is said to refer to intending to do a good deed, but resulting into other than what was intended. This is what is meant by an accidental mistake. You can find that in the `Tayseer Kaariim Ar-Rahmaan fii tafsiir Kalaam Al-Mannaan`. And we have the well-known authentic Hadiith that all actions are accounted for according to intention (innama al-a`maalu bi an-niyaat.. ) So if his intention was only to threaten you with divorce if you disobey him for example -and Allaah knows his intention and the matter is for Him to judge in the end- or his intention was to say that it`s so difficult for him that he fears that you will end up in a divorce or that he is so sad that he sees it as a solution, then obviously it is an accident, isn`t it?
Otherwise he has divorced you, and it`s no accident. Allaah knows the intention, and Allaah knows what he was telling you. Also Allaah knows if he was so angry that he was in a psychosis and doesn`t even remember what he said, then yes it`s not valid due to his pen being lifted at that time, but in that case he should seek medical attention. Today are good spychiatrists and good medications that can help a person know what`s wrong with him mentally and clear his mind and live according to better abitily. A man who is fighting like that with his wife should consider if it`s a healthy and safe environment for the child to have to grow in.
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