[Dark but not Heartless]

I have a confession to make.

I have an undying longing to meet Brenda Song (disney channel actress, The Suite Life of Zack and Cody) but its more than a longing, it's a passion, an obsession. I dream of meeting her and talking to her, and just staring into her eyes...

Anyway, my friends tell me that my feeling for her are unhealthy. Mainly because of my myspace, layout (myspace.com/blacknredjacket), which depicts images and a profile music that clearly communicates how I feel about her.

So I don't know how to cure my addiction. Cause there's no rehab center I could go to for an addiction to BRENDA SONG...

I'm not embarrassed by my love for her, but I do see why others are concerned about me.

Can anyone help me?

[Fr_Chuck]

I think many of us have a secret passion to meet or be with someone ( and not really them, but the idea of them) since all we know is the public them, the TV them that we see, not the real them.

And Brenda Song is of course a lot better than if you had a obsession over Chenny ( I would want you committed at that point)

But if you have desires and even a somewhat obsesssion as long as it does not move into stalking or unless it is effecting your life and manner of life, I see no real issue on it.

There are people who are obsesed with star wars or some other things, and god only knows what theier myspace looks like, ( some are down right scarey)

Anything can be either good or bad, it is all in how it actuallyeffects our life that makes the difference.

[chippers]

I'll let you in on a little secret. I had an undying attraction to Harmon
Rabb on JAG. Every Tuesday night(til the show moved to friday) I would put the kids to bed. Make myself ready as in putting on my pjs to settle down and have my one hour a week with him. (before him it was Rick Springfield, but that's a blog all into itself.) I looked forward to it everyweek. Just to have my time with him. Seeing him on TV made me feel good. Not really about myself. But that it gave me something to focus on for one hour instead of what was going on in my life and around me. We need to do that once in a while. I saw him as my escape from reality. But I regret it had to end sooner or later.
I knew it was a problem when I would arrange my schedule around the show. As much as it bothered me, I cut myself off completely from watching the show, including reruns. As hard as it was, I found myself focusing on something else and no longer obsessed about the illustrious Harmon Rabb.
What I'm trying to get at is people do develop celebrity crushes. They count on it in a way to succeed in their careers. The more people watch them, pay for their music, or movies. The more popular they are. They have fan clubs for a reason.
You are not in the minority here. I agree with Fr. Chuck. Its normal to have crushes. We all do no matter our age. As long as we keep it inperspective. Crushes are okay if you think its interfering with your life and developing relationships with the people around you, then maybe a step back wouldn't hurt. To look around and see what else is out there. Who knows maybe you'll find a nice girl who you think is better than Brenda Song. Someone who you can spend time with and stare longingly into her eyes. Your myspace dedication to her is like when we covered out room in posters of dare I say our youthful obsessions.

[Dark but not Heartless]

Thanks, that helped. I guess its just that I'm 16, and my mind is vulnerable and prone to emotional confusion. Did you see my myspace? I designed it myself. I think its pretty good.:cool:

[Fr_Chuck]

I did not see a link to your myspace but after the cupid movie yesterday on it, nothing much can shock me.

But of course I am older, but I can remember my dreams of "daisy duke"

[Dark but not Heartless]

www.myspace.com/blacknredjacket

Its not just the layout, but the pictures and song as well