[summerbreeze213]

We dated for about a year. No contact for 7 months after breakup, I ended it because he said he was still hurt from the last relationship and had(has?) commitment issues.. he sent a few messages during the seven monbut but I ignored them, all I wanted to do was move on. I met new people. Hung out with new guys , had fun but there was not a single day that went by I didn't think about him.. :(

A mutual told he'd still show concerns about me when talking to our mutual friends and I was moved by that. A month ago. He texted me and I responded this time. We have been talking, it's really great, caught up where we left off, as the seven months gap doesn't even exist. I asked him why he wanted to contact me and talk. He admits that he misses me and I mean a lot to him. I have shown that I still have feelings for him.

Now. I'm not sure what to do... (or go for nc again).. he won't do anything. He doesn't have a plan about us. I am not angry, just disappointed. I should be patient with him?

[tickle]

I don't know why you would expect him to have a 'plan' about your relationship when things have been in limbo with you two for seven months.

Yes, I think you should be patient with him, why not ? He has proven that he still cares, so accept that for what it is and bless him for it. I guess you have to take the initiative here, but it isn't unusual for the woman to be in control of a situation like this. Old rules, old habits about love take a back seat nowadays in some cases. We all know a lot more then we used to, and should use the knoweldge we have accumulated.

Be satisfied that you two can find common ground and build on that. It is only as complicated as you make out to be.

Tick

[nitelight198073]

Well the first step was letting him contact you first, this may be a sign he is ready for a relationship now. You missed each other and such. Just take it slow is all I can say and see what happens.

[broken_ heart]

If he has commitment issues.. I don't think you should get involved with him... what if he will not change and remain like this... only you will be hurt...
First you think about your priorities... what matters to you most and let him decide for his own... men usually don't take much time to decide whether they want to have an future with a woman or not... and believe me if he doesn't want to commit to you now.. chances will be less that he will commit to you in future... and if you have raised this issue and broke up with him because of all this.. I will suggest you to sort this one before getting involved again... I think seven months break is long period for him to decide and for you too decide... rest is up to you... how you are going to take all this..

[kaka67]

What's the point if nothings changed?

So you get hurt more? Not very smart is it... :confused:

[amicon]

He doesn't have a plan,he won't do anything-time to leave him in the past.

Don't waste your patience on someone who isn't emotionally available.

[talaniman]

If nothing has changed between you, and you can't communicate, I fail to see what the point is.