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Alysha13 · Feb 9, 2011, 10:55 PM

How do you mend a broken heart? How do you get over the fact that you will never be with that one certain person again who use to be your everything? How do you stop looking back, thinking "if I had just done this one thing.." or "if I hadn't done that.."? How do you stop thinking about all you use to have, and all you could have had with that one person? How do you get to that point where you can look at them again and not feel so overwhelmed by the memories and the good times? How do you stop thinking about them 24/7? How do you fall out of love, I guess is what I'm really asking. How can you be happy again?

answerme_tender · Feb 10, 2011, 08:19 AM

TIME--TIME---and yes more TIME.

Unfortuantely there is no magic button to push to take away all your pain and suffering. All we can do on this site is guide, because we have been where you are right now. We know the pain is so intense that you feel that your suffocating. However, we also know that you can heal, not overnight it may take months, sometimes even longer, but you do heal and go on with your life.

Believe it or not most have found through this healing that they have grown as individuals. They have found the strength within themselves to walk with their head held high for they have achieved the inner peace and admiration that most never truly get too.

One thing learned is that they never again rely on another person for their personnel happiness, that comes from within ourselves.

Its time to mourn your loss and get on with your life. Go totally NO CONTACT--this means blocking contact by phone,text,computer,etc.. Tell friends that you want NO updates on this person. When you get out don't go to places he will be.

Its your time to heal and grow. Do things that will help keep you occupied. Do volunteer work, a new class, volunteer at woman's shelter, etc. Get out with friends!

Take care

I wish · Feb 10, 2011, 08:40 AM

answerme_tender covered it: "Time + no contact"

Check out the no contact related threads in my signature.

Alysha13 · Feb 10, 2011, 11:52 AM

How do I keep no contact with this person if they are in two of my classes? I see them almost everyday.. And, on top of that, my best friend is best friends with them. The three of us were all best friends, before the break-up.. And, to be honest, I don't really want to have no contact with them, I want to be friends with them again, and maybe even best friends again, someday.. How do I do that?

answerme_tender · Feb 10, 2011, 12:23 PM

Once again the answer to your question is TIME. You have to give all the individuals time to heal and realize that this isn't the end of the world and life goes on, that is including yourself. I will give you heads up, being friends with your ex is not always an easy road to take especially since your saying BEST friends. Best friends DO NOT deliberately hurt each other by going out with the others boyfriends!!

Maybe you need to find some different friends, that know the real meaning of friendship. After sometime perhaps you can be acquaintances with the so-called friends after you have given yourself time to heal.

Take care