[eldomi2000]

I have been married for 10 years, we have 2 kids. My wife goes to school and I stay home taking care of my children who are now. 8&6. She graduated as a RN last month and now she wants me to leave the house, give me a divorse , because she has a boyfriend , and coming home at 3:00 am . 2 years ago she left the apt where we were living and moved to her Mother's house for 2 years. Now I want to find a job and go to school now she has finished with her school. What should I do ?

[Stringer]

Have you two sat down and thoroughly talked? Have you tried counseling?

If you have and her mind is made up then I would start preparing yourself for what may be coming your way. When a person presents the other with their decision such as this they are prepared emotionally and otherwise, you are not.

This apparently has been going on for some time though and you should have some inkling as to why.

Again my advise is to prepare yourself but also try fix this if that is your desire.

Sadly even when things can be fixed that grass over the fence just looks too green. Sometimes it takes learning that it really isn't, you are just running away.

Good luck,

Stringer

[martinizing2]

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I too think that you need to prepare for stormy seas.
10 years together is a long time, it was 12 for me.
Drastic change on the horizon.

She has had this planned and now it is in implementation she is not likely to stop.

It sounds shallow and cliche'
But I have seen this "pattern" (for lack of a better term)
More times than anyone is likely to believe.
It is not really a pattern but very similar circumstances.

Plan is one stay with kids and home
One goes to school and works.
At conclusion of education roles reverse.

Most of these situations end up just like yours.
The educated half goes away to greener pastures.
Occasionally it is the homebody that leaves.
But it seems to be a curse or bad juju to do this.

But the devastation of your plans and dreams
Coupled with the pain of loss can be overwhelming.

Shattered lives are hard to even accept as reality,
We keep thinking and trying to do or say something to make
It work... fix it... while knowing it is never going to
Happen.

It would be more fun to be in a firefight
Armed with a spoon vs. Desert Eagle .50
Armed brain eating zombies.
And the chances of coming out unharmed are better.

I understand, to the extent I been
In a similar situation, how depressing
And painful and stressful it is to go through
This kind of assault on everything you
Worked on and planned to make the future bright.

A family is a hard thing to lose.
Getting into the reality of this taking place
Is brutal at best.

There is no way around the private hell
That happens for a while.
Try to prepare and gather your strength.

Get an attorney and start building up
A cash reserve with him or her.
I believe this to be VITAL.

There is nothing I will say to cause
You hope ,hope only prolongs the ordeal
And makes it more painful.

You will always be able to find help
Help and support here.
Use this to vent, wonder, and not
Feel so alone.

I would have loved a place like this,
But that was before the internet
Or common computers , the dinosaurs
May have not have all been dead then.

Someone is always here.