[leicesterG]

" Ive been in a relationship now with my boyfriend for just over a year but since we've been together our sex has been so dull and really has completely knocked my self-confidence i fell so unattractive. Me and my boyfriend have sex every now and again but i always go down on him and that doesn't bother me a tall but he has only ever gone down on me twice since we've been together is there something wrong with me? I try to drop hints but that never works our sex only lasts for a maximum of 2/3 minutes.He is always on his laptop looking at porn and i was think so try something sexy but im wondering if i should bother i feel so unattractive and low. I want him to take me some where nice on valentines day but that probably wont happen. What is up with me :/ ??"

[answerme_tender]

Its not because of you! So why stay with someone who makes you feel this crappy about yourself--Hello!! This isn't a relationship, sex with you doesn't sound like its anymore then a break from computer porn, so he doesn't get carpel tunnel!

Its pretty sad to hear that you already know he won't get you anything for Valentines day, yet you will probably still sit around being his break from the computer!!

You need to kick this poor excuse of a man to the curb. Get out with friends, meet new people. There are plenty of men out there that want to be in a real relationship, who know how to treat a girlfriend more then just a break from watching porn on the computer. But are you mature enough to stop being his blow up doll, and actually move on with your life. Its time to stop blaming this freak for you lack of relationship. You know the situation, its now your choice to either stay and go no were with this guy or take the chance for a real relationship with someone else out there!!

Take care

[neverme]

You cannot blame yourself for his uninterest or selfishness in the bedroom. This is clearly not only about your sex life though, you don't think he's going to bring you anywhere for Valentine's Day?

I'm not saying that it is essential that a couple go out/spend money on Valentine's Day but it is important that you feel special and that you make him feel special, all the time!

I think your best bet is to have a frank conversation with him and see what he has to say for himself. Try to go into it as open as possible so that there may still be a chance of resolving your issues.

If you don't come to an agreement really I think you may be better off without him.

[ken007nielsen]

You need to make him realise that you won't stand for this anymore, let him know he's hurting you, and ask him to change. If he wants to be with you he will change, if not the two above got the right idea, kick him to the curb!

[talaniman]

Big red flag when you can go down on a guy, but not tell him you ain't happy. You may be with the wrong guy.

[acciosnivellus]

It sounds like to me you need to stop dropping hints and start talking! You need to communicate a lot more openly, especially since you've been together for over a year! It could be that he simply doesn't think there's a problem with your sex life if you aren't directly talking to him about them. Or he may just be an inconsiderate jerk who doesn't care about your needs. You'll never know until some serious talking happens!

I don't know if you're ashamed or don't want to come off as needy, but your sexual satisfication is JUST as important as his. Don't let him have all the fun! Sex is supposed to be fun- on BOTH ends! Be stern and serious and have a vey open conversation about all the problems that are bothering you, even those not in the bedroom. If things don't start looking up after some serious communication, it's probably time to kick this selfish lover to the curb. You'll find someone who makes you feel insanely sexy all the time and tends to your needs in and out of the bedroom, instead of this one sided mess. But remember none of this will ever be accomplished in any relationship without being open about your wants and expectations, same on his end. Good luck!