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    Ailiwen Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Jan 25, 2011, 04:08 PM
    Why won't my boyfriend let me initiate sex?
    Every time I try to initiate sex, he pushes me off or tells me he's too tired or some other crappy reason not to have sex with me and if I try anyway (he likes to "take it" so I figure its okay for me to do it, too, because it's a game for us) he gets all pissed off and has even struck me- but its perfectly okay for him to initiate it, and when I tell him no it's a game and it happens anyway. I'm so sick of this because I have needs too!! Once a week is NOT enough.
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    Jan 25, 2011, 04:13 PM
    Get a new man..
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    Jan 25, 2011, 04:13 PM
    Okay, first off, best advice I can think of. Dump his sorry rear end!
    There is ZERO excuse for him to ever feel it is right to hit you. That just screams bad future.
    Do not let him bully you like that. Love is mututal and sex is a way for two people in love to unite themselves in a way words cannot describe. It isn't right for one to take it and not have the decency to let you initiate
    Please do not let him continue doing this to you, it is not healthy. Best of luck
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    Jan 25, 2011, 07:33 PM

    Get out!! --- of this relationship...
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    Jan 25, 2011, 07:55 PM

    I think is better for you to get down and discuss about this. And if this really bothers you and the relationship then think twice. Love is not only just sex.
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    Jan 25, 2011, 09:28 PM

    Hitting you instead of giving into you is a red flag, and unacceptable behavior. Not healthy, or wise, and this game you play is dangerous. Get the hell out or expect more of the same, if not worse!
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    Jan 25, 2011, 09:42 PM

    He hit you . You were trying to initiate sex , and he hit you.

    Why the hell are you still there?
    I feel that control is lost and progress halted when voices are raised. And 90% of the time that is true.

    Also true 90% of the time is that when you are struck by a partner , it will get more frequent and severe as time goes on.

    I think the answers here are all in agreement and so far it is 100% for you to save yourself as much grief and heartache as possible and go.
    Go now , it will not get any easier if you wait.
    And could grow into hospitials .
    Or mourtuaries.

    This is serious as serious gets.
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