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ChickyBaby does not find this helpful : Well it not unhelp full... but you don't need to be a nasty person. I was only giving an example because state laws are different. However you seem to give advise on the law in every state, even though you are a lawyer from Florida. Interesting.
First, may I call your attention to the guidelines for using the comments feature found here:
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Unless you can show that an answer was factually incorrect, or misleading then giving a negative rating is not appropriate.
Second, you have already been informed that this is a forum on law. We hold answers here to a higher standard. Responses must conform to actual statute and you need to be able to back them up. So please cite a NJ statute that supports your contention about a judge asking a 12 yr old.
As noted, even if NJ statute does allow a judge to interview a 12 yr old, that does not mean the judge will listen to the 12 yr old's wishes. In ALL US states a court is charged with making a custody decision based on the court's determination of the best interests of the child. The court may or may not talk to an listen to the child, but the decision rests with the court.
Finally the question was whether the OP could refuse to return the child. Your response, even if accurate, does not address that question. The correct answer is he cannot refuse to return the child without risking legal sanctions, that he has to go through the courts to change custody.