[azirajai]

My husband died nearly 9 months ago following a heart attack. It was a big shock for me, my children and all the family and friends. After that he came to his sister's dream and my mother's like he was grieving for me. For a while my sister saw him and he was always happy.
Up to a month ago I saw him in my dreans time to time. He mostly did not speak to me and a few times he even rejected me. We had a good relationship except from the last few months that we had arguments which I think they were due to the load of presuures that were over both of us.
He does not come to my dream any more.
Azi

[tickle]

Hi azi, could be your husband doesn't come to your dreams is because he has moved on, settled his soul and is happy with how he left. Sometimes departed ones visit loved ones in dreams until they are settled with leaving our world.

Tick

[azirajai]

Hi Tick
Thanks for your comment. I am not sure if he was happy to leave in this cicumstances. Definitely his death was the easiest one (if you can say such a word for death). He had heart attack while he was swimming. He went into comma and never came back. So I guess he did not have much pain. But we had just moved to our own house which had bought just 3 weeks before his death, after 13 years being mrried. He worked hard. We sacrified many dreams to have a house of our own.He was working hard to insure children future. When he died he did not have a life insurance because the GP was vary late in preparing the medical report for the insurance company. So I had to sell the house and go into renting again and move to a city that we both disliked it.
I will be delighted to be sure that he has no concern now as he was always very caring and supporting us. But I like to know why he rejected me a few times, why he did not talk to me when he came in my dreams. I am thinking over and over every day that may be he is not happy with me about something. I am dying for just a little chat with him! Another hug!

[troublemakerman]

I'm sorry for your loss. You should find a bereavement group in your area to sit in. Face to face with people who also had a loss you may find answers there. http://www.twitter.com/joeyluvr

Why I go to bereavement groups
By Michael A Gelb

I had a loss in my life
I lost a mother and also a wife
It hurts so badly when people die and they are gone
I was told a bereavement group might help me to move on
We sit and we talk about our lost love
How we miss them and we know they're in the heavens above
We all can come together because of the pain we all share
We can relate to each other with passion and how much we care
Talking about the past, which now is a memory in our life
Were not sure of our future that will be for the rest of our life
We now have large changes in our life
Someone may have lost a parent, a child, a sibling, a husband or a wife
It's our group that knows our loss and our pain
At times our friends or family might think were not sane
Someone may say something that would bring us to smile
That's something that happens every once in a while
We try to get by the sorrow
If not today then maybe tomorrow
Maybe after time and lots of tears
Just maybe we might find another love that cares













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