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cutiex1986 · Jan 8, 2007, 05:33 AM

I met this guy 2 and a half years ago. We were dating for a year and last June he had to take a decision. He could either stay here and go to the army or go to a university in england. He decided to stay here with me. However, two months later he became really depressed and we lost any communication for two weeks. I kept calling him but he didn't pick up the phone. One day he was online in in the internet and I told him that I wanted to break up with him. I didn't get an answer. One year later he appears again in my life keep saying that he still loves me and wants to see me. He said he was going to stay here only for a week and then he had to go back to england. I was really confused and did not know what to do. I knew I shouldn't believe him but I did. I love him so much and I just couldn't help it. All the week he kept calling me and he was so sweet and caring. When we met we talked, he said that he really cares about me and we ended up having sex. From that moment until the day he left he didn't call. I called him and he said he was really busy working on a project. He also said that he might come back for christmas. He did but he never told me. I found it out from a friend that saw him. Did he call me because he knows how much I love him? Was it just sex for him? I really don't know. I know he'll call again in summer and I don't know what I should do. What should I do when he calls?

Thank you for your time.

Druid · Jan 8, 2007, 05:38 AM

If you have to ask ! Then you already know the answer.

Yes it was just sex.

Love is an emotional interest in another person. This is demonstrated by one person to another by a desire to be with that person, to know that person and to share lifes experiences with that person.

If that emotional interest is not evident then it is not love.

chuff · Jan 8, 2007, 10:26 AM

Originally Posted by cutiex1986

was it just sex for him?

Yes.

Originally Posted by cutiex1986

i know he'll call again in summer and i don't know what i should do.

I don't think he will.

pluckyflamingo · Jan 8, 2007, 10:32 AM

As the previous statements have already said, yes it was just sex. Maybe it was just sex, or to make you think he still liked you, I mean who knows. But if you are confused about him coming back for the summer then all I have to say is. Shame on him the first time shame on you the second.

K_3 · Jan 8, 2007, 10:34 AM

Whether it was sex or not, I would not give him the time of day.

Wildcat21 · Jan 8, 2007, 10:35 AM

Yep, he's playing you - find an available guy.

talaniman · Jan 8, 2007, 12:12 PM

Don't be confused, he got what he wanted and left. If he calls be unavailable. Then you will not be confused or used. Why are you wasting any time or thoughts on him.

nwsflash · Jan 9, 2007, 10:14 AM

Sounds like he has had his fun, played on the field with you and now he is off to play ball with some other women... Don't let him be a PLAYER with you, as Talaniman says make yourself Unavailable, and kick his a@@ to the kerb !

Get out with friends etc, move on with your life, and treat it as a learning kerb.

Geoffersonairplane · Jan 9, 2007, 11:26 AM

Completely agree with the other responses, he is a player and got what he wanted. Forget this one and move on.. He was not as nice and caring as you thought he was, he used this kind of behavior to play you.