When you are threatened in any way, by (essentially) a stranger to you, for no reason other than you are in the wrong place at the wrong time (involved with a girl in this case who has a nasty ex), it changes a person. Because there is no reason for the stranger to threaten you, you are left feeling afraid, and confused.
This stranger (to you) has no history with you; he does not know you, you are not involved with him in an ongoing argument, nor does he have reason to feel resentful, hateful, and aggressive. This leaves a big question in your mind, which has only one side. He is threatening you, but the other side of the coin is, you have nothing to make sense of it with; why he has made a choice to single you out, and target you.
That you are with his ex girlfriend, makes you the cause an reason (in his mind), for him not being with her. He sees you as a threat, standing in the way, of him being with her. What fuels this type of anger is immatue jealousy, insecurity, fear, and unresolved, misplaced anger. In other words, everybody is responsible for him not being with her, except himself. That you are front and centre, makes you a part of the problem, where under most circumstances, relationships that are over, while it hurts to see your ex with a new man, it is accepted as the partner has just moved on.
While this man has chosen to think of you as a reason for his own hostility, as well as a solution to his problem (if he gets rid of you through intimidation, he gets back with her), it is not personal. You could be the President of the United States, it wouldn't matter. You are seen as threatening, and as competition, to his ex girfriend. He does not see the relationship as being over.
You must take threats from anyone, seriously. It has nothing to do with your manhood, or your courage. It has only to do with the fact that a person who would threaten another person under these circumstances, is unstable, and justfies any of their behaviour, in order to achieve their goal. Which is to get her back.
I can't tell you how many times I've been told by women that their ex's have said, "If I can't have you, nobody can". And some of them truly mean that.
Walk carefully. Do not engage in any conversation with him and do not think that you have to fight such a person because whether you win or lose, you still lose, as it will not stop him.
Keep a diary of dates and times, and any retaliatory action he has taken against you, and report him to the police. Your girlfriend should do likewise.
I would consider the dream both a warning, and a wakeup call to understand what is going on here, and how to prepare yourself to respond appropriately.
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