[youtat13]

Ok, so my name is Tate(15 year old male) and my parents are getting a divorce. There are four people in my family, my dad(Chris), my mom(Lori), my brother(McKay) and me. When I was younger my parents got along great. My brother and I are pretty could kids, we get good grades and don't do anything allegal. I think the first fight I witnessed was when I was 13 years old, we were having some money problems. My dad and my mom started to argue but then it escaladed to them just yelling at each other. My brother was out with some friends, so it was just my parents and me. I ran up in my room and just laid in my bed curled in my blaket trying to get away from the sounds of my dad yelling and my mom's crying. I just couldn't seem to get away from the noise. What ended up happening was my dad went to a hotel and my mom cried herself to sleep.(Now the weekend before Thanksgiving) Well this weekend my mom was going to the dell's(Winsconson Dells) and my dad and my brother were going to go to are cabin which was in Iowa. My dad went to are cabin before by brother and wasn't expecting my brother until that night, but my brother went down that afternoon. He walked in are cabin and saw are dad and this other women in are parents bed. My brother ran out door to his car and drove away and called my mom and told her. My mom was destroyed. She came home from the dells early in tears. I didn't know what to do. I just wanted to just kill my dad(literally). Then my parents are going to dicuss the divorce before Thanksgiving. Just taking in all this, I didn't know what to do. I just wanted to kill myself and teach my dad a lesson for doing what he did. I have done so much to try and ease the pain. I don't know what to do anymore. I just want to be done with it. ;

[Stringer]

What your dad did was wrong absolutely, cheating is a deal breaker. However Tate I do not think that there is anything that you can do personally in this matter except stay strong and be there for your mom.

I realize that this is earth shaking for you and your siblings and believe me this will all work out eventually one way or the other. I too as a child went through the same thing although I was much younger than you. It was confusing and frightening and I began asking myself if I was somehow part of the problem but I learned later that I was not.

If the divorce does happen I feel that you too will go through the same emotions as I did and you will learn that it was not you at all. This thing has to run its course and I am afraid that you will be drug along with it.

So I say again, try to be strong and be there for your family.

I sincerely wish you the best son.

Stringer

[Fr_Chuck]

You as the kids just don't do anything, you started by saying how good you are, like perhaps if you were better , this may not happen, that is not the case. You are not the cause and not the problem.

You remember that they both love you and that their problems while hurt you indirectly is not your problem, but their

[killerwhales22]

All I can is if they try to tell you that the other parent is a piece od **** just say tell that to them not me leave me out of it.