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Campervan25 · Nov 23, 2010, 01:55 PM

So a few days ago my best friend told me he was gay. I'm the only person he's told so I'm really flattered that he told me, but ever since he told me he was gay I can't get him out of my mind and I can't stop thinking about him. And I think I've started to like him more than a best friend. Now I've had stupid, silly guy crushes before but I've never felt this way about a boy before. Now, whenever I'm on my own I'm fine, but whenever I'm with him I'm attracted to him. But I can't just tell him because he's only recently told me, he knows I'm straight and he doesn't like talking about him being gay. I'm scared to tell him and if I do it's most likely going to be a messege over Facebook, but I'm scared that if I tell him he won't like me and it may ruin the friendship. I'm straight, I like girls but I don't know why I'm attracted to him, I don't get turned on but guys, so I'm really scared and confused.
We're both 14.

Chris0107 · Nov 23, 2010, 03:03 PM

Hmmm... sounds like you might be bi.

You're 14, so this is the age where you will probably find yourself and starting learning about who you are and you're sexuality.

I would definitely hold off on telling him and just wait and see what happens, or see if you're feelings change as time goes. He confided in you as a best friend and I don't think telling him is appropriate at this time until you figure out what these feelings are that you have. It could pass, or you could just be curious. If you do continue to have feelings for him down the line then maybe you can say something, but right now I don't think you know what these feelings are, so best not to open those cans of worms just yet.

Fr_Chuck · Nov 23, 2010, 07:41 PM

Sorry but at 14 you should not be sex ( anything) except thinking about it. So be friends and just be 14 year old kids

talaniman · Nov 28, 2010, 06:51 AM

No need to tell him anything because you don't know yourself. Curiosity may make intense feelings more intense but acting on them without more thought is a disaster at 14, or any other age when you are not that sure of yourself.

Give this a lot more time to see what develops, years even. Gay or straight. 14 is a time you can make mistakes if you are not careful on how you deal with these emerging feelings, as there is no telling where they are coming from.

nizhulei · Jan 3, 2011, 05:26 AM

Tell him.

I am gay, I am in love with straight. And do u know how much I want he say he loves me?

Tell him

Live_life · Mar 3, 2011, 03:24 AM

Well you have got yourself a tough one.first of all don't tell him as yet. The thing you can do is firstly figure out your feelings give it a year or two at least.the thing is that as others have said you might just be curious and thus making the feeling you feel for him intense.in this period you can hang out with him and find out more about him give him hunches of what you feel get close to him. One more thing came to my mind while reading your problem. There might be a reason behind why he told you he was gay. Knowing you are straight he would not have told you in fear of you reacting to it in a negative way and your friendship being in jeopardy.he also might have feelings for you as well.. (well that's how I see it.). So assess the situation properly...

Nightsound · Jun 3, 2011, 06:21 AM

Im 14 too. For me, your best friend is one of the luckiest gay. Few STRAIGHT men fall in love with gays.
First, you need to find time knowing if he likes you too. You just can't tell him straight that you like him.FIND TIME
Im 14 too. Im a silent gay and I have a pretty bad love life. I was madly in love with my best friend. I can't wait for him to tell him. I don't want to be late because after this year he will be transferring. So I called him in the middle of the night. I confronted him. After I told him I like him, it was complete silence. Then he told me "ok............ thanks........ but" then he hung up. Next day in school, we did not talk. It was awkward and odd. He favored a friend of mine to tell me something. He said "your best friend told me that he really likes you but sorry". Then I shattered into pieces and learned a lesson. To find time for him and understand him deeper... you don't want to end up like mine,so.. FIND TIME.