[Magritte]

I've asked men out many times, and so far each relationship has ended. Fed up w/ my bad luck, I stopped asking men out.

It has been months, nearly a year and still not a single date. I don't think I'm an eyesore, some consider me "pretty". I just don't understand why men don't ask women out anymore, any insight?

[joypulv]

I'm not sure about the norm nor do I care. I do think there is still a tendency for many men to like to do a certain amount of the chase, part primeval and part social attitudes built on a few thousand years of wanting women to be coy and reticent to assure that they will not stray after being 'won' (or exchanged for some cattle or arranged as a family business merger).
There are countless ways to ask someone out, and perhaps you have been too blunt. Show interest first, ask all about him, compliment, agree and disagree about ideas and preferences, let him know who you are, and then say hey let's go for a coffee or a walk sometime. Save the night on the town for much later.

[Cat1864]

Men like women are all different so are their likes and dislikes. The only common factor you can control is yourself. Are you closing yourself off without realizing it?

A few factors that can come into play:

What age range are you looking at dating?

Where are you looking for dates?

What else was going on in the relationships where you asked the men out? Was there an age gap, earnings gap, other differences of opinions and Beliefs, etc.

What is your general attitude toward dating? Do you see it as a fun way to get know someone or as putting down a payment on a full relationship?

If you are wanting them to make the first move, are you holding yourself back and maybe not being as out-going as you had been?

[Fr_Chuck]

And men get tired often of asking people out just to be turned down and to have it end.

Part of the issue is often finding the person with the same ideas, opinions, and likes.

So what are you using as a guide to ask a man out, looks, or from things you know about them.

Have you tried on line dating services. Just heard of a free one that was popular, something like "plenty of fish in the sea " dot com I think

[mmresd]

A norm, maybe; a must, definitely not! It is fine for a female to ask a male out. But, you have stopped asking men out because you have had a couple of bad experiences? I am guessing that when a man approaches you now, because of the initial decision that you have made, they might think that you are intimidating. And trust me when I tell you that most man do not have the courage to ask a pretty girl out, so don't doubt your looks, confidence, or self-esteem just because no one is asking you out, just wait for a guy to overcome his fears and court you as he should be doing.

Good Luck,

Javi

[Magritte]

Hi,

Thank you all for your advice! Each one provided a difference perspective and reflection. To answer some questions:

Joypulv, great suggestions, thank you!

Cat1864, I think you may have hit the target. I just need to be more open to chance, after all, that's what life is. As for dating, I'm rather ambivalent, it's fun but also taxing.

Fr_Chuck and Cat1864, I have tried online dating, but the whole process seemed... well, dead. I stopped recently, moreover, I would rather leave it up to chance.

MMresd, thanks for the reassurance!

[I wish]

As long as you continue to put yourself in a position to meet new people. The more people you meet, the more chances of finding something that you will have more in common with you.