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katlinlopez · Oct 31, 2010, 05:05 AM

We have three wonderful children. I am scare to separate from him even thought I had divorced him several years ago, but never leave the house neither none of us. He spend hours in front of the TV.. while I was crying on bed about my situation.

He doesn't take me out at all. He is not interesting in any holiday. He do not smoke, drink or go out on his own. He is always at home and that makes me feel guilty and ending thinking that I am the problem. He never takes the children at the park or Local church. He keeps saying that he will go and he never leaves.

I have fallen in terrible depression and there were time that I do not want to leave as I am a coward to allow myself leaving as I am living now. I have put weight from size 10 to 22 living with him and he keeps saying that I am pretty. THERE ARE TIMES that I Hate him very much and others that I can not live with out him. He is my sweet heart and he is not violence. What I mean is that there is not social excuses to leave the house.

I hide myself in the toilet to cry and cry. I can not remember when was the last time I was very Happy. Where can I get the strength to be brave and begging a fresh start with my children?? I pray everyday.! I am trap in unwanted place. Please help with advice.

Thanks katy

Devorameira · Oct 31, 2010, 05:54 AM

You definitely sound trapped and depressed. Why didn't you move out when you originally divorced him?

Do you have a job?

If you really are fearful of moving, it's possible that you have an anxiety/depression disorder. Why not see a counselor to try and get to the bottom of it and find out what you really fear?

pandead · Oct 31, 2010, 07:10 AM

It is a good enough reason to leave the house if you are unhappy. Why would you inflict this to yourself? Are you financially dependent?

Fr_Chuck · Oct 31, 2010, 07:18 AM

You need to develop your own life, you go to the park with the kids, you go to church with the kids, and if you are unhappy, you go to a new house or apartment with the kids, it may take that to wake him up, he fells at this point that you won't do anything and he is happy with life his way

talaniman · Oct 31, 2010, 09:27 AM

Do you both work? That's your key is to work, and make yourself independent, and give him an official notice to vacate the premises. And call a cop if he doesn't.

You can pray all you want, but have to take actions on your behalf that work for you.

Who's house is it anyway? Find the reason to leave the house yourself, and make friends to talk to so you are NOT isolated, and alone. That's where love, and support comes from, friends, and family. Where is YOUR family?