[viki904]

I have been married for 13 years now and 12 of them were spent waiting for my husband to fall in love with me. I was only 16 at the time so I really didn't now getting married was a big issue. All this time he treat me like nothing, he never hit me or leave me to go out a lot, but I always new he didn't love me. After the first 2 years of marriege we stopped having sex because he didn't want any and still I waited for him for many years having sex once or if lucky twise a month. No hugs or I love yous from him just to find out after our 11th anniversary that he was having a affair. I believe it was not long but still, he never wanted to be with me. I stopped loving him but my kids keep me from leaving him. Unexpectedly I started falling for his friend that wanted to begin a relation then suddenly stopped it. I believe its because he is a true friend and that's fine, His friend told me that if I wasn't with him everything would be different, I believed he liked me as well. Should I leave my husband?

[Cat1864]

Do not leave your husband for another relationship. If you leave him, do so because it is the best thing for you and your children.

If you leave, do not jump into a new relationship. Take time to stand on your own two feet and rebuild your life as you want it not as you think it should be to accommodate anyone other than your children. Prove to yourself that you are strong enough to not rely on someone else to love you and make you happy.

If there is no love between you and it is a marriage in name only, perhaps it would be best for you to get out before you make the same mistake of cheating that he has. I doubt that was his first affair or will be his last especially if he has no feelings for you. Even one affair or the possibility of one is a trust breaker. Do you trust him? Do you think with your feelings for the friend, he can trust you?

You could try marriage counseling and it might be a way to work through the issues so that if you part ways, it is on amicable terms instead of as enemies. Your children do not need or deserve to be pawns in a bad divorce.

[talaniman]

Not for another guy, absolutely NOT!

[Homegirl 50]

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to talaniman again.